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My girlfriend always struggles to make female friends, women seem to make snide comments have you experienced this?

I've always found this to be quite odd, she's is absolutely gorgeous in my eyes but very shy.

She's kind and struggles with her confidence but pushes on anyways.

I always tell her she is probably the nicest person I've ever met.

As a consequence she doesn't always see when someone doesn't have her best interest at heart.

My only criticism is when she feels slighted she can be defensive and doesn't address the issue head on.

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plungesponge · 41-45, M

It's probably because she is attractive.

I find it strange how much we continue to behave like sperm and eggs even as humans.

Guys can travel in packs, gangs, armies. We will fight to the death for glory but we believe in things like "May the best man win". We naturally jostle each other and rib each other, but there's some strange shared appreciation that we're all kind of on the same mission, even if we're in direct competition. And much like sperm, men are considered expendable.

Women have a lot more trouble running in packs. Much like eggs, there's really only meant to be one at a time. To attract men/sperm, they're not meant to do anything,
they can just sit pretty and the suitors will arrive. If two equally attractive ones are in the same space at the same time, one of them has got to go. And a war between women is ugggllllyyy, there's no rules, no "let's not hit below the belt", they just can't fucking stand a single thing about the other woman and want to destroy them.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@plungesponge good points.
Also other women dont take to girls who are 'one of the boys. My daughter was very sporty at zchool. Played football and rugby and other team sports and was often the only girl in the team. Sometimes, the girlfriends of the boys gave her a really hard time coz she spent so much time with the boys. They accused her of fancying the guys and was clearly a tart!!
The guys always stuck up for her to be fair....which upset the gfriends even more!
As time went on the way many of the girls coped with this was to decide between themselves my girl was a lesbian....so the felt less threatened of the time she spent with the guys. She found it funny....but it was really cruel.

plungesponge · 41-45, M

Men and women are playing very different games in nature's view. Men are more in a team environment, a woman has her family line and her only family (if she chooses to have kids), but it's much harder to be in a group.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@plungesponge but not all of us. And its often those women that other women dislike!!!

plungesponge · 41-45, M

Yes, what I've described is just most, maybe even only 70%, of men and women. Nature likes mix up behaviours too in case there's a new evolutionary behavior that's advantageous. There are always exceptions