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How pathetic is it for a man to cry in train before people while thinking about something/someone?

And a couple of passengers end up giving you pat without asking the reason.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
Means that man is man enough to have strong emotions.
Means that man is sad, hurt, angry through tears, wounded.

It happened to me in the past for almost a year.

And sometimes, that compassionate pats without questions from strangers but still human fellows, human solidarity, is ALL we have.
Budwick · 70-79, M
How cold hearted is it to ask such a question?
Perhaps he just learned of a family death,
Maybe his wife just left him.

Please - tell me I've misunderstood something you wrote.
SW-User
@Budwick hmm. I'm talking about myself. I had a bad day... Kinda sad how I lost control.
Budwick · 70-79, M
@SW-User Ahh, OK, I understand now.
Thanks for your reply.

In regards to public crying, I understand how being overwhelmed with emotion can be embarrassing. But I also have great respect for men that actually experience emotions. Many stuff their feelings away somehow. I think they are the ones in the bell towers with high powered rifles.

Time is a good healer Carpenter. The problem may not be resolved, but you can and will deal with this and all problems. Just give it time.

Good luck.
LyricalOne · F
It’s entirely human.
It not pathetic at all. Getting in touch with your emotions and then expressing them-even crying wherever it may be is NOT a feminine issue- it is a human issue.
Mindful · 56-60, F
I don’t think it’s pathetic all all!! Goodness. He’s just feeling overwhelmed!
ms20182878 · 61-69, M
Crying is never ever pathetic.
Prettybrat · 26-30, F
I'm guessing you were that man
SW-User
@Prettybrat yea unfortunately.
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
It's not pathetic at all
xixgun · M
There are too many factors not in evidence.
To the onlookers, this man may have just lost a spouse or child (or pet).
You have no idea why people cry, and the only time it's pathetic is when the person is crying because they didn't get their way.
Silent tears are never the least bit pathetic. It only becomes pathetic when there are sobbing and sniffling noises involved. Quiet crying is actually noble.
pathetic is judging someone's hurt, empathy is no burden.
What about someone reacting to getting harassed? Would it be normal to react when they threatened because they’re too old for that shit and it’s weird? @Dangerousliasons
@Spoiledbrat Don't know why a person would cry in public but showing empathy to them is not bad thing, if someone is getting harassed it's different, is it an actual act that you can either physically help (if you are able) or speak up by oneself or in a group. Not sure I understand you comment. cheers!
I’m drawing attention to myself. (A person could cry in public and that’s okay. A complete melt down might indicate lack of self control which some people might find unattractive or weak but a few tears is nothing to worry about). @Dangerousliasons
I don’t cry in public unless I’m really angry. Highly unlikely, I’d get a pat.
Maybe somebody close to him died, or had a sevefe tooth ache?
Coralmist · 41-45, F
It's completely fine to cry...in fact that is strength...good for you to show how you're feeling, I mean that. I'm so tired of society as if you must ALWAYS suppress sadness so people can just make money or be placated or scurry around. I've suppressed crying in front of others so I admire you🌷
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Sroonaka616 · 31-35, M
Everyone has bad days.
SW-User
I’ve been there before dude, I just put my sunglasses on so no one sees me upset.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
Not pathetic at all. What is actually pathetic is your lack of sympathy.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@JaggedLittlePill and if this was you(as I seem to have seen below) I am glad someone acknowledged you. That is fantastic.
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Aw how endearing that theyd pat you

 
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