Should a busy teenager still have at least 1 chore?

Does she find time to eat the food?

Explain to your daughter that this is not a choice, it is a task. Explain every member of your family must contribute in some way to the cleaning and maintenance of the home where you all live, and that if you all decided to blow off your chores, saying you are too busy, you would soon live in a very smelly hole of a house, with bugs and disease.

Tell her that when she moves out, she will have to clean any home where she happens to live, again, because of smells, bugs, mice, and disease. This is not something she gets to decide not to do. It is part of survival, for everyone.

Tell her that after the dishes are washed, she can do whatever she wants, but that if she is too busy to contribute to something so necessary, you will have to intervene and cut out some of her activities.

What is she busy doing...looking at her phone?

I can relate with what the teenager is saying and what you, as the mother, are saying. It's difficult to fit chores into an already busy schedule, but it isn't entirely about finding the time, it's about finding the energy. Occasionally spending time with friends is important to lower stress and improve mental health. That is probably why she can find "time" for friends but not chores. She ran out of energy with other responsibilities and maybe spending time with friends is her way of getting the energy back. But I also understand that you probably feel the same way about your responsibilities and need help getting some of the household chores done. I'm also a young mother trying to juggle many different responsibilities and I feel like I need the ability to occasionally get out of the house in order to keep my sanity, but being a single parent makes it a little more complicated to get out. I don't have any solution to suggest to fix your situation since I'm not there to see the people involved or their needs, but I think that there is probably a compromise that can be reached if you both discuss it with open minds towards each other's feelings.

Responsibility needs to be taught because she will need it as an adult

Depends on the parent.

If the teenager did nothing but still didn't have the time, then definitely, they should have to do things around the house.

School, sorts and eventually a job?

Is it so bad that eventually, she manages to de-stress? I'll tell you now, I lost my mind at school and it made my entire life plummet.

Ask yourself what's more important... her being able to have some her time, where she can just relax and let that straining, overwhelming pressure fall away.. or a few dishes being cleaned.

Guess she ain’t got time to eat off them dishes either.

Depends on how busy she is. When I was in school, I literally had no time. I lived in a house with a lot of people, and their dishes piled up quickly. It could easily take an hour or two to finish, and I came home late at night at around 9 or 10. I'd also need time to shower and just relax at home, so dishes wasn't exactly the greatest thing for me. I'd do them, but I'd have to rush to shower and then go to bed right after and didn't really have time for anything personal.

Do you think life cares? Life demands you make time lol.

I would have been slapped if I had said that.

of course and there should be consequences if she does not do it

Absolutely! She lives there too!

That’s teenage logic for you. Mine are the same.

Teens have busy stressful lives, but she can do the dishes on occasion lol.

More than just one......

Unless she’s also paying something towards the household, she shouldn’t balk at chores.