Why do spouses use kids in divorce to get back at the other spouse. Such an evil evil act.

Because they’re selfish and can’t see beyond their own hurt feelings. I detest this behavior. Absolutely detest it.

Unfortunately it only takes one “shit head” to put the kids in the middle.
I can’t speak for everyone’s reasons but in my experience, our kids were the last bit of leverage and control he could have over me. They were the one thing he knew he could use to hurt me.... simple as that. His anger and need for vengeance overpowered everything else...even protecting his own kids. It’s sad and disturbing all at the same time.

I’ve never understood why some spouses behave in a way that attempts to destroy someone they supposedly once loved. The effort of one parent to alienate children from the other spouse is a continuation of the desire to destroy the ex-spouse AND, they think, to set the children’s love for themselves in stone. What happens sometimes is the child matures enough to know what actually happened, and the one who worked to alienate them now experiences it herself/himself.

The kids are always the biggest losers though.

I don't know. But my uncle's ex lied to her two kids & said my uncle hit her & that he was cheating. He wasn't, she was the one that was cheating (everyone knew too she wasn't exactly hiding it). I feel bad for my uncle though his only 2 kids resent him & it's all based on a lie. What's even more sad the 2kids call the man she cheated with their dad.

I don't know it's fucked up

None of your business, it's the courts job, direct yourself to something you can do something about!

Selfishness, pure and simple. They’re thinking about their [b]own[/b] pain and the resentment they hold towards each other and not considering the feelings and fears of the children, who are innocents in all of the conflict.