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I Am Confused About My Relationship

I'm about to meet the Lady I pledged to marry. that was 2 yrs ago. we've fought since then. a lot. but in doing so we have avoided those fights later in life - we will simply understand by then. we are each fighting the others weaknesses with them, wishing only the best for them, fighting their battles in our ways. but we each fight back, every step of the way. it's a seriously tough battle and we weren't sure we would stick it out when we parted back in September.

now we will meet. Tuesday at noon. I have no idea what I will feel, except compassion. what will I want? she seems to have got all needy in the bedroom suddenly, which hasn't happened like ever (could well be birth control I wish she'd ditch it). and I... for the first time, am not. for the very first time my drive is coasting along nicely and I'm able (mostly) to look a girl in the eye while I'm talking to her - and most importantly while she's talking to me.

what will I feel? I'm nervous and have butterflies to fund out... scary! I hope I will find the strength (in God) to be honest. I pray that she does too.

goodnight EP. live long.

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dzrhnds

forget it?

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

the relationship? what makes u say that? I realise you're probably trying to help but it's hard for me to see where you're coming from :(

dzrhnds

not nessecarly the relationship.Getting married does not stop the fighting

dzrhnds

and I dont think god is going to help you either..

dzrhnds

your in fantasy land

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

ah I see.. thanks :) we're not hoping it will... we've only made a promise of commitment because we don't know if we're ready. it was a sign of our will to make it work more than anything. we haven't even set a date. funny only now do I realise people might read this and think we're getting married now! Lol sorry not my intention. she's just been abroad :)

dzrhnds

well listen to me and listn good..Dont try to start a family thinking that is the beginning of forever...you will regret it..

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

thank you, I hear you. that would be the start of forever, which of you're not at peace together could be aka hell. I do know that, but your post helps hammer it truly home. thank you.

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

Sorry? Who made you the ultimate judge of what people do/don't know? Much effort is expended on this site to communicate people's views and opinions. Each is to be treasured, one knows not where it came from necessarily, but it came from human logic and thought. That is enough to make it valuable and earn pride of place here. If you don't understand, ask. If you still don't understand, ask a different question... It is nobody's fault, people just communicate in vastly different ways, and from vastly different points of view. Conflict is normal - aggression and hostility towards it is, unfortunately, also normal - doesn't make it productive or supportive or positive though.

Best,
CoL

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

Hm. fair point, touche. I guess it was the question initially, intrigued me rather than riled me. followed by a valid point that marriage in itself does not stop the fighting. then sure it got ugly but I'd seen some effort to help before then. yours however started with an instant attack on another user, which upsets me a lot when I see it... peace?

dzrhnds

who you talkin too?

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

Lol another user replied... they deleted their posts ;)

dzrhnds

Who?

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

can't even remember Lol, Alice something something? no idea. doesn't matter, she taught me I judge things based on some weird-as principles that simply don't hold up under scrutiny... that's a worthy lesson and a half.

dzrhnds

man you got to pull it together

DreamCoCreators · 36-40, M

tell me about it