Why do they have to grow up so ridiculously fast?

My 17 year old daughter just told me and her mom that she and her boyfriend are having sex and they're being safe. She confessed after I overheard her blabbing to her best friend on the phone. I just went numb during that whole period and just didn't know what to say.

We always knew this day would come when she got the greenlight to start dating and even though her mom and I gave her "the talk" long ago, we're just heartbroken.

Dang! I can't get a grip of myself

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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 31-35, F

This is one of those scenarios I would consider a “ growing pain”. As she grows older & becomes more independent in her thinking, choices etc it can feel so difficult as a loving parent to let go. Of course she’s only 17 so you’ve got some time before she’s likely to “ leave the nest”. Be patient with yourself & those feelings. First thing is first it’s important to be sure she’s healthy & safe so have her mom take her to the gynecologist office. Then really I’d acknowledge the courage it took your daughter to talk about such a personal subject with you both. That wasn’t easy but it should be appreciated that you were trusted. I’m sure if you guys did a good job with her she is smart & you’ll all be okay as this next page of her life & y’all’s relationship with her turns.