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I Am Having Family Problems

Final Update:
My brother texted me to say that my parents were due to go to his on the day I said I would visit. I called my mum, I said I would be around at 12.30pm the taxi I order was booked for then. My Stepdad insisted that he had to leave at 1pm to be at my brothers house for 2pm. My husband (who is a driver by trade). Said that even driving at 30 miles per hour it would only take 30 minutes tops to reach my brothers house. We dropped off the present and cards we got them. Luckily they had stayed in to receive it.

In the card I tried to remind my mother that she has 5 children (yeah), I ain't the only one here. And put a collaboration of me and my sister together with mum together.

5 hours later my brother posts online a picture of his wife his mother in law and my mother sitting on a bench together near their home.

I was very angry, as I could see my mother was not impressed. She look positively miserable. Worst she is 83 years old and that day was not a day for sitting outside because it was a cold day. My sister in law might think it a warm day as would her mother as they originate from a country where Siberian weather is the norm. But not my mother. I felt sorry for her.

Since then she has not telephoned me.

On the social media page I had some comments. So I tried to tell the truth. Only technical glitch with my laptop it got sent several times to people. Now they think as my brother keeps insisting that I am mentally unstable.

But if I say to them. Ask him what exactly is my diagnosis and what medication I am supposed to he taking for this illness. They will then become hostile and try some other way of reasoning why they do not like me.

Not just simply saying we had an argument and we are getting back at her.

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Unity101 · 61-69, F

The Game begins Part 2

So, my poor sister in law was exhausted I expect. Looking after both sets of parents who are all disabled and oap’s. I noticed no photos came off the restaurant event and nothing seems to be mentioned other than my mother’s comments. Which is strange as there would have been over 11 people at least on the day at this event.

My mother’s birthday as I previously mentioned was the next day.
My sister-in-law (wife to the youngest brother), immediately posted a photograph of my mother on her birthday with her youngest grandchild. And stated that the highlight of my mother’s day was to spend it with him.

My return on this was that my mother has 8 grandchildren in total. And whilst the youngest is cute where are the others? As I know she went to that weekend do.

Also noticed that now my telephone calls are blocked again. And I have lost over 270 relatives worldwide off my Facebook page.

That my older sister has disconnected me from as she is the administrator of the family line group.

So why do I say ‘Let the Games begin?’

Because this is political powerplay on the part of my youngest brother and oldest sibling. And my Stepdad.

The oldest sibling did this to an Aunt of ours about four years back. Basics of the background is that she was delivered by this Aunt (midwife), and given to her from birth. As my mother was only 18 and felt she was not in a position to care for her on her own. When my mother got a job which took her to the Uk. My Aunt and mum agreed that the father of the child should take over her care until my mum could send for her. But my Aunt would keep visiting her until then.
Aunt got sent for then my sister. And both remained in the Uk for the next 40 years.

My Aunt helped bring up and look after my niece and nephew whilst my sister worked. This was never afforded to me. I hired babysitters/childminders until I met and married my husband then his mother offered me this service.

Once when my sister and I were out. She got slightly drunk and opened up to me. Obviously she thought I was drunk. I was not. She explained that it was her intention to immigrate again this time to the USA. I asked if our Aunt would go with her. She empathetic that she was not prepared to look after our Aunt in her old age. But she intended to get from her as much as she possibly can.

This I knew would cause friction as my Aunt has nieces and nephews too numerous to mention (hence my 300 strong blog page). And they loved her just as much as my sister. But in the final days. My Aunt sold her home. Suddenly my sister emigrated. My Aunt then stayed with various relatives include the next brother down from me. She became their live in nanny until she was too old to do it.

When she was hoping to live with my mother and her husband (childhood pact between sisters). My mother realised what this would mean that she would need to look after my aunt as she would be the younger one in the family. She listened to my Stepdad who did not want to live with two women in the house. She he manipulated and played up until my mum and Aunt Argued and she came to live with me.