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I Am Having Family Problems

Final Update:
My brother texted me to say that my parents were due to go to his on the day I said I would visit. I called my mum, I said I would be around at 12.30pm the taxi I order was booked for then. My Stepdad insisted that he had to leave at 1pm to be at my brothers house for 2pm. My husband (who is a driver by trade). Said that even driving at 30 miles per hour it would only take 30 minutes tops to reach my brothers house. We dropped off the present and cards we got them. Luckily they had stayed in to receive it.

In the card I tried to remind my mother that she has 5 children (yeah), I ain't the only one here. And put a collaboration of me and my sister together with mum together.

5 hours later my brother posts online a picture of his wife his mother in law and my mother sitting on a bench together near their home.

I was very angry, as I could see my mother was not impressed. She look positively miserable. Worst she is 83 years old and that day was not a day for sitting outside because it was a cold day. My sister in law might think it a warm day as would her mother as they originate from a country where Siberian weather is the norm. But not my mother. I felt sorry for her.

Since then she has not telephoned me.

On the social media page I had some comments. So I tried to tell the truth. Only technical glitch with my laptop it got sent several times to people. Now they think as my brother keeps insisting that I am mentally unstable.

But if I say to them. Ask him what exactly is my diagnosis and what medication I am supposed to he taking for this illness. They will then become hostile and try some other way of reasoning why they do not like me.

Not just simply saying we had an argument and we are getting back at her.
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Unity101 · 61-69, F
The Games begin Part 1

I promised to add to this story once I had visited my mother.
I did not visit her she came to see me.
It is important to note that someone told her about this story. As when she came to visit. The display of affection towards our stepdad was
comical to say the least. But I was smiling and very happy. My stepdad even made a point of leaving us alone together so we could talk. The only point I became slightly annoyed at her for was when she tried to insinuate that my memory was not as it was and that maybe I had some mental instability. Which my husband who was there put her down on.

So, she retracted that statement and left on good terms. Or so I thought.
The next day I telephoned. My call was barred from her phone. I called later in the day thinking maybe it’s not in its cradle properly. Again, went straight to voice mail. I then contact my older than younger brothers. As I had found that a relative had died abroad and I wanted to ask her who they were and let her know.

I texted my youngest brother no response. Texted my older brother. She telephoned me. And we chatted. Leaving thing amicable.

Since then the routine settled and we telephoned each other regularly.

Last weekend she informed me that she was going to my older brothers for the bank holiday weekend. I tried to contact my younger brother to ask him about something. And he did not respond. That’s when I said to my husband. “They are going to have a family meeting without me. Which means the meeting is about me!” My husband told me to ignore it.

Tuesday morning, I attempted to contact my mother again my stepdad answered. He put my mum on wished her happy birthday. Said I was to attend but over the weekend went down with influenza so I was unable to. That’s when mum confirmed that all the family in the Uk had gone to my brother’s house that weekend. They took her to a restaurant apparently and whatever she ate did not agree with her and the night was ruined as she ended up for a long time in the toilets.

So, it seems the manipulation begins. I figured that my stepdad began to be ignored and got bored so he started to play up to come home. Which is daunting for my poor sister in law as she had to leave work then drive 70 miles or do a 140 miles’ round trip just to drop my mum and stepdad home. I do not know why they did it that way. I would have thought that as my brother is now retired. He could have travelled by train to my mothers. Sat with my dad whilst he drove them back to his place. And did the reverse when they were due to go home. As my stepdad is not that old he is thirteen years younger than my mother and still fully able to drive. He does it when he was to drive 250 miles to the airport with my youngest brother.