I want to be there for you… another statement that deserves to be examined more closely. What does it mean to be there for someone? Surely there is more to it than simply being present for the good times and the bad. Otherwise I may as well be a lamppost – there with no distinguishable role.
I believe being there for someone also requires you to adapt to their situations. What we need from the people in our lives constantly changes as our environment and circumstances change. Therefore, being there for someone should entail a willingness to adapt based on the requirements of the moment.
Other than being present and adaptable, I believe it also requires you to be supportive and understanding of the person; even if you don’t necessarily agree or understand. Being supportive of something you don’t necessarily agree with isn’t as paradoxical as it sounds, as that support stems from trust. Trust in the other person and their ability to make their own decisions regardless of the results.
Glancing back over my definition then, I cannot help but think of you. I want to be this for you. Sadly, our situation doesn’t allow this to the extent that I would have liked, I cannot always be there after every bad day no matter how much I want to… at least not yet. All I can do in these moments is to observe from afar how your days unfold and how your mood suddenly plummets at times. How I wish at times like these that I could reach through my phone and hold you, console you…
With all this I pretty much just want you to know one thing; I want to be there for you always. No matter what the situation may beg of me, I will be that for you. This is my desire, not only because your happiness means everything to me, but also because you deserve it so much more than you will ever know.