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I Want To Stop Letting People Get To Me

It’s the dumbest and childish thing ever and one of the biggest flaws I have. For some reason I’ve always cared about what people thought of me. Then I’d try hard to fix things and it would almost always make the situation worse. It bugs me greatly and I don’t know why. I may be 20 but some days I feel like I haven’t grown up. This is one of the things that makes me feel this way.

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Trevo · 26-30, M

It's not dumb to feel. Don't fight your feelings. Be true to yourself and you'll feel better. When feelings happen the best thing is just to let them happen until they leave

Throger · 26-30, M

@Trevo yeah I’ve learned not to bottle things up but the ways I handle things aren’t always the best. Especially with what I have going on I tend to have massive breakdowns

Trevo · 26-30, M

@Throger sometimes it does gain overwhelming proportions.

I'm not the best at regulating my emotions as well. However, I can tell you that it's been way easier since I started putting the advice I just gave you in practice. It's important to identify and accept whatever emotion you're feeling, without any resistance, even those are labeled as being bad (anger, envy, jealousy...). You can't control your emotions, you've been shaped this way by many factors. One thing you can control is your actions. If some actions tend to make you experience emotions you don't like, avoid them.

Also if you like pleasing people at the expense of your own needs, maybe this could be useful for you.

[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hYTPl7MkiA]