I Am Hurting
It's impossible to love her as a woman.
It hurts to love her as a child.
I
Don't
Want
To
Play
This
Hand
It hurts to love her as a child.
I
Don't
Want
To
Play
This
Hand
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Peekatyou 路 46-50, F
Im sorry B. Maybe this...?--Love her as a person. Im not saying you SHOULD, but I know you're choosing to stay with her, so Im trying to find something that may help you do that.
I wonder if taking a step back and seeing her for who she is instead of who you wish she might be? Maybe the disorder itself should not be taken personally. I think about someone with Alzheimer's...people try so hard to get them to remember and are hurt when it doesn't happen. The person with Alzheimer's regresses into a child and it's hard for people to watch. But they can't help it and all they need is to be loved for how they are. And we can't take it personally because they can't help it. They just ARE.
I don't know much about borderline. You've told me some things and Ive read your stories. Maybe it's too hard. Please know im not suggesting that you should put up with any form of abuse or that it's acceptable to treat people poorly. You're making a choice to stay, so you have to figure out a way to make it easier.
I wish I could help... 馃挋
I wonder if taking a step back and seeing her for who she is instead of who you wish she might be? Maybe the disorder itself should not be taken personally. I think about someone with Alzheimer's...people try so hard to get them to remember and are hurt when it doesn't happen. The person with Alzheimer's regresses into a child and it's hard for people to watch. But they can't help it and all they need is to be loved for how they are. And we can't take it personally because they can't help it. They just ARE.
I don't know much about borderline. You've told me some things and Ive read your stories. Maybe it's too hard. Please know im not suggesting that you should put up with any form of abuse or that it's acceptable to treat people poorly. You're making a choice to stay, so you have to figure out a way to make it easier.
I wish I could help... 馃挋
Brooksy 路 41-45, M
You do help, just by listening to me mope 馃槈
I'm trying. I want to love her like my wife, but sometimes she just does things that remind me that woman is gone. That's the part that hurts so much
I'm trying. I want to love her like my wife, but sometimes she just does things that remind me that woman is gone. That's the part that hurts so much
Peekatyou 路 46-50, F
@Brooksy: I understand why that would be so hard. I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. You can always mope and cry and whatever to me. I'll be here.