I Am Hurting

sorry man. those things that can not be remedied must be endured. but sometimes you've lost before the game has ever even started.

Im sorry B. Maybe this...?--Love her as a person. Im not saying you SHOULD, but I know you're choosing to stay with her, so Im trying to find something that may help you do that.

I wonder if taking a step back and seeing her for who she is instead of who you wish she might be? Maybe the disorder itself should not be taken personally. I think about someone with Alzheimer's...people try so hard to get them to remember and are hurt when it doesn't happen. The person with Alzheimer's regresses into a child and it's hard for people to watch. But they can't help it and all they need is to be loved for how they are. And we can't take it personally because they can't help it. They just ARE.

I don't know much about borderline. You've told me some things and Ive read your stories. Maybe it's too hard. Please know im not suggesting that you should put up with any form of abuse or that it's acceptable to treat people poorly. You're making a choice to stay, so you have to figure out a way to make it easier.

I wish I could help... 💙

Mornin Darlin.

One of the most difficult things in life is accepting what is over what we want it to be. We spend so much time and energy trying to change what we cannot change. Wishing, hoping, praying for another way, something else to try, that will make the bad hand we were dealt a good one.

Here if you need to chat. Hugs

I read a paper once about families dealing with their loved ones dementia. I know it is not the same. But it explored moving away from a deficit model, to a narrative of noticing what parts are still there, and what parts of them make you laugh and smile and remember.

Moving away from loss to now.

*hugs are coming your way*

I'm sorry boo :(
I'm here if ya wanna talk about it.
As always.
❤️

So sorry you're having to deal with something so heavy.

Here if you need to talk. *hugs*

Elaborate?

🤗