Do you ever feel sorry for your lover’s ex?

@SwampFlower I also feel sorry for his ex in a similar way. I am saddened by the likelihood that she probably needs to see a psychiatrist but won’t.

@Mindful It is sad but hopefully she finds her way. Do they still talk to each other?

My husband and his ex lost a child together so they did still talk a lot when we first got together. It never bothered me considering everything and I even got to where I would check on her myself. Thankfully she did get help and mostly back on her feet. We don't hear from her so much now.

@SwampFlower that’s awesome. No. They don’t talk. She went bananas calling cops on him AND the kids, she got physical at times. He was overwhelmed. They couldn’t speak at all. It was a confusing time for every one. It was before I met him too. He asked her to see a doctor. But she would have none of that. I think few people have the skill to cope with borderline mental illness. I often wish I could intervene but it isn’t time yet. I definitely am intimidated by his fear of her. When they traded kids it was always in public and several cars apart. So that she wouldn’t be able to grab his car door or keep him from leaving.

@Mindful Wow. Since it was so chaotic, it is probably best to care from far away.

@SwampFlower yes. That’s what I tell myself. Thanks for sharing your POV too.