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I Wonder Why Solitude Is Not Appreciated More

"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other" ~ Osho

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MrFinch · M

I appreciate those sentiments. I was alone for years and learned to enjoy the freedom of not having to negotiate with or conform to someone else's wishes as you always do when there is a partner to consider. But I wonder if that made me a more selfish person?
Within a relationship it is no bad thing to have "alone" time when you can focus on your own interests, pursue things that only you enjoy and be apart so that coming back together can be all the sweeter.

GypsyMiss · 41-45, F

@MrFinch I don't think it's selfish. My experience has been that I am a much nicer person to be around after having my own downtime and I have more to give. Keep me chained to you with little or no reprieve and I will eventually run out of steam.