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Could you really love someone who wasn't themselves?

I always thought that if you loved someone it was for them just as they are. You can't pick and choose parts of a person and say that you truly love them in my opinion. Sure you can disagree with their beliefs or how they do things but unless you can accept them for the good and bad how can you say you love them? Oh and trying to change them....that's not love either 😝

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Viper · M

Well in response to that, I'd argue someone is always themselves and they physical can't not be themselves.

Yes there is a phrase, but if we're getting technical, the phrase is wrong.

You can love someone for who they are, buy you can also love someone for whom they were... but if they're no longer that, you may or may not love them still.

Though most people problems are they're ignoring negative signs and replacing them with false reality that their head fills in the gaps, and what they really love is the gaps filled in their head and the non-negatives of the other person.

Silentpleasure · 31-35, F

@Viper People do change and yes you could have liked the person they were but did you really love them if changing a part of them causes you to not love them anymore? Those I love I will be there for no matter what...I don't love them because of something or a set of conditions.

Viper · M

@Silentpleasure It depends on a case by case basics, and you probably make a great point that a majority is what you are saying.

But there are exceptions too, where yes, you can truely love them, and still love them... but they're not the same person, and you can't love whom they currently are.

Silentpleasure · 31-35, F

@Viper I might not like who they are now but that never changes that I love them and I would still help them if they truly needed it. I can count on my hand those that I love....everyone else I just like lol.

Viper · M

@Silentpleasure Like I said, you are correct about the majority, but yes there are some exceptions to the rule as well.

Silentpleasure · 31-35, F

@Viper You have a very good point....back to the drawing board lol