I Am Seeking Inner Peace
Forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not work for everyone contrary to what most people believe,I could call that concept "preconceived thinking" I know it says in the Bible "forgive your enemies" and many other preconceived ideas stem from there,people want to believe that because it was cited in the Bible it must be true,not so, as many other ideas that have been coined there only to stops us thinking and reasoning for ourselves.
There are things that simply cannot be forgiven and a lot of people are being made to feel thoroughly miserable and wanting because they cannot find it in their heart to forgive,they already have been sinned against and the guilt they feel for not being able to "forgive" only adds insult to injury.
There are things that cannot be forgiven and I would even say SHOULD not be forgiven.Often people who cannot forgive are made to feel bad and unloving by others who have no concept of the suffering they have been through and certainly did not experience any of it,in other word the victim is being blamed here! never mind what horrible experience someone wantonly put them through,leaving them damaged people whose lives are in tatters,according to some "they should forgive" and if they do not they are the bad one,and often not a word of sympathy is given to that person.
You cannot simply be made to feel you have an OBLIGATION to forgive,on the contrary, not forgiving some awful transgression and betrayal is the person's perfect right and prerogative, they might even feel much better for it contrary to public opinion.
People who try to forgive the harm done to them and do not want to, often feel they are betraying themselves and it on only adds to their pain and suffering, as they feel they are selling themselves down river.
Often people will tell you to "forgive" simply because they cannot share your pain or do not want to and for them it is the classic cop out advise.
The church is one of the most unforgiving institution and yet they tell us to forgive! And sadly people take notice as they recognise the church as an authority and fail to think for themselves.
Do not feel guilty or wanting in any way if you cannot forgive,it is your prerogative YOU are the VICTIM and not the perpetrator!
Forgiveness does not work for everyone contrary to what most people believe,I could call that concept "preconceived thinking" I know it says in the Bible "forgive your enemies" and many other preconceived ideas stem from there,people want to believe that because it was cited in the Bible it must be true,not so, as many other ideas that have been coined there only to stops us thinking and reasoning for ourselves.
There are things that simply cannot be forgiven and a lot of people are being made to feel thoroughly miserable and wanting because they cannot find it in their heart to forgive,they already have been sinned against and the guilt they feel for not being able to "forgive" only adds insult to injury.
There are things that cannot be forgiven and I would even say SHOULD not be forgiven.Often people who cannot forgive are made to feel bad and unloving by others who have no concept of the suffering they have been through and certainly did not experience any of it,in other word the victim is being blamed here! never mind what horrible experience someone wantonly put them through,leaving them damaged people whose lives are in tatters,according to some "they should forgive" and if they do not they are the bad one,and often not a word of sympathy is given to that person.
You cannot simply be made to feel you have an OBLIGATION to forgive,on the contrary, not forgiving some awful transgression and betrayal is the person's perfect right and prerogative, they might even feel much better for it contrary to public opinion.
People who try to forgive the harm done to them and do not want to, often feel they are betraying themselves and it on only adds to their pain and suffering, as they feel they are selling themselves down river.
Often people will tell you to "forgive" simply because they cannot share your pain or do not want to and for them it is the classic cop out advise.
The church is one of the most unforgiving institution and yet they tell us to forgive! And sadly people take notice as they recognise the church as an authority and fail to think for themselves.
Do not feel guilty or wanting in any way if you cannot forgive,it is your prerogative YOU are the VICTIM and not the perpetrator!
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