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I Am Seeking Inner Peace

Four Magic Words.... BUT, THAT WAS THEN!
We are all filled with regrets to a certain extent,some of us more than others,I certainly have my fair share and often wish that I had done things differently,so my life would have taken a different direction, been more fulfilling,I would now have the family I always dreamed of, that life did not grant me from the word go . I made some poor choices AT THE TIME,with the knowledge and insight I had THEN.I could not have chosen any differently because it was who I was THEN.Looking back I see the glaring mistakes and what I could have done to prevent myself making them,but I look with the eyes of NOW,with the knowledge and insight I have acquired through the years,so maybe those mistake have taught me something after all and it is not totally a waste.
Yes I have had losses because of bad choices,BUT,THAT WAS THEN,when I could not have known any better or done any differently with the circumstances I found myself under.I am not that person any more,I cannot keep tormenting myself with regrets that basically belong to someone else.I regret, because I now see clearly what I did not and could not see then with my lack of insight and experience.I have control and power over my life now or at least this is what I choose to believe,certain mistakes I WILL NEVER MAKE AGAIN,as I apply the knowledge and insight I have NOW to not make poor decisions.But I was learning THEN and did not even know about it.
Now when I start regretting the past I say the four magic words: BUT,THAT WAS THEN!
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Kathieredart
Wow... I have OFTEN said the very words you used here, " I made the best choices I could with the knowledge and maturity I had at that time. And that's the point, isn't it? I don't think about those choices much, if at all, now. And besides, every "mistake" I made provided an A+ lesson and growth experience. Hugs...
berangere · 80-89, F
Realising and accepting that a much younger and inexperienced you made the mistakes that you can now see clearly because of the depth of your present insight,is truly freeing for the soul and the mind.Say you were given the opportunity to go back in time, as you were then,you would be making exactly the same mistakes again.So, regretting is futile.