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Am I the only one who needs and wants to make friends, but at the same time, wants to stay home alone?

I guess what I'm trying to say is, I want to skip the awkward stage of making the friend, and fast-forward to actually being friends, calling them up to go do such and such with, sharing about life etc...

I started a meetup group in real life, and we are going to a play soon. I don't want to go .
Then one of the girls suggested we meet up before-hand to have lunch, again, I don't want to go, because I have fun things I can do alone, Netflix, read, play sims etc.

But I need friends and hate when there is something cool that I want to do and have no one.
I want friends, not acquaintances but you can't make a friend without getting to know them..
ugh, am I crazy?
iamnikki
31-35, F
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EmilyEdith 路 56-60, F
You are not. I did busy mom and wife for a lot of years and just put a social life on hold, now I'm single and empty nested, and alone way too much. My problem is I don't want to sit down and tell a complete stranger my life story UGGH. That sounds exhausting and boring. I do not remember where to start with people. So I generally never do.
I have no advice because I continue to stink at this, but people tell me to just keep doing what I like to do, that's where the people that I will like will be.

Just wanted you to know you're not alone, I think making New friends as an adult is hard for a lot of us馃尰
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iamnikki 路 31-35, F
@ThePerfectUsername Yea, I think that's what it is. Only reason I started it is because no groups were doing anything in my area.
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ThePerfectUsername 路 70-79, M
*nods* Do you have any pastimes that're supported by groups where you live? Maybe if the focus wasn't so much on friendships as on things you simply enjoy doing the pressure wouldn't be so intense. @iamnikki
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iamnikki 路 31-35, F
@ThePerfectUsername There isn't anything to do here. I've tried before, its usually people twice my age doing things.
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ThePerfectUsername 路 70-79, M
Baby steps Nikki. @EmilyEdith makes a lot of sense. Good friends know where you came from and where you're heading, but if you don't have that kind of history with anyone you can bet your bottom dollar it's going to be hard. You've just managed to articulate how so many others feel as well that's all. Stay true to who you are so that when the right friend comes along they can recognise you and want to stick around.
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EmilyEdith 路 56-60, F
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No you sound like me. I dislike having to make friends, but also i dislike dating for the same reason as you said.
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TheReaverCleaver 路 M
Lol.... I can relate.
But you're not crazy
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iamnikki 路 31-35, F
@Stereoguy I know this. I've been going in circles for a while. It's nerve-wracking, it's a lot of work, I'm shy, socially awkard at times, don't know what to say, beat myself up when I do/say something wrong etc etc
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