emmasfriend · 46-50, F
You cannot possibly work from 6am until 10pm every day, that is 1) illegal 2) harmful.
Here if someone tried to assign hours like that the overtime pay would kill them. 1.5X regular pay for the first 4 hours (after 8), then double time for the next 2 and triple time for anything after that.
It will not be good for you to attempt this. Find another occupation.
Here if someone tried to assign hours like that the overtime pay would kill them. 1.5X regular pay for the first 4 hours (after 8), then double time for the next 2 and triple time for anything after that.
It will not be good for you to attempt this. Find another occupation.
@Bluebell1 phew. lol
ninalanyon · 70-79, T
Live frugally, save as much as you can because having money means having options, flexibility, independence, and if necessary an escape route. Don't let yourself get distracted by people who always want to party. If the hostel is run by the clinic or hospital it should be a relatively safe place and also full of people like yourself, many of similar ages that you can probably easily make friends with.
hartfire · 70-79
How important is it that you continue to live in your village?
After you've saved 10% from a few weeks' or months' pay, would you consider renting a flat
within 15 mins walking distance of work?
You could return to your village on week-ends or rostered time-off days, to spend time with family.
In the mean time, with one 8 hr shift per day, perhaps 5 days a week, a young woman still hase enough energu leftover to go to night classes, learn a hobby, join a sailing club and sign on as someone's crew,
join a walking or yoga or self-development class - or any of many thingstthat can help you meet people with simialr interests and make friends.
What do you mean by "need to remain hostile" and why would you need to be?
Behaving a hostile way or anxiously expecting it from others tends to backfire. Most people don't respond well to it.
Being calm, open, warm, respectful and friendly puts others at their ease and predisposes them to feel comfortable about getting to know you.
Remember if people make fun of someone, it says far more about them than their target.
The best responses are to ignore the remarks as though you'd never heard them,
or give an enigmatic smile,
or say "that's interesting" in a tone of absolute boredom and disinterest
and then turn immediately to whatever else needs doing on the job.
If we let go of ego, no insult can affect us.
Hospitals can often be toxic for staff. The work cultures are an outmoded inheritance from the days of miltary hositals -- the days of Florence Nightingale. The concepts of traige and necessity for a clear chain of command remain, but verbal abuse, hazing, sexist behaviours, and "political" manouvering for favours, impunity or power, all these need to become obsolite because they don't just sap moral, they interfer with effective teamwork and healing the patients.
Despite all that, amongyour fellow nurses there will always be some always some who are innately kind, well-balanced and basically friendly.
Look for them and spend time with them during your breaks as often as possible. Make times to see them outside work.
In the meantime, message me if you like, and we could explore whether we have anything in common that might grow a friendship.
After you've saved 10% from a few weeks' or months' pay, would you consider renting a flat
within 15 mins walking distance of work?
You could return to your village on week-ends or rostered time-off days, to spend time with family.
In the mean time, with one 8 hr shift per day, perhaps 5 days a week, a young woman still hase enough energu leftover to go to night classes, learn a hobby, join a sailing club and sign on as someone's crew,
join a walking or yoga or self-development class - or any of many thingstthat can help you meet people with simialr interests and make friends.
What do you mean by "need to remain hostile" and why would you need to be?
Behaving a hostile way or anxiously expecting it from others tends to backfire. Most people don't respond well to it.
Being calm, open, warm, respectful and friendly puts others at their ease and predisposes them to feel comfortable about getting to know you.
Remember if people make fun of someone, it says far more about them than their target.
The best responses are to ignore the remarks as though you'd never heard them,
or give an enigmatic smile,
or say "that's interesting" in a tone of absolute boredom and disinterest
and then turn immediately to whatever else needs doing on the job.
If we let go of ego, no insult can affect us.
Hospitals can often be toxic for staff. The work cultures are an outmoded inheritance from the days of miltary hositals -- the days of Florence Nightingale. The concepts of traige and necessity for a clear chain of command remain, but verbal abuse, hazing, sexist behaviours, and "political" manouvering for favours, impunity or power, all these need to become obsolite because they don't just sap moral, they interfer with effective teamwork and healing the patients.
Despite all that, amongyour fellow nurses there will always be some always some who are innately kind, well-balanced and basically friendly.
Look for them and spend time with them during your breaks as often as possible. Make times to see them outside work.
In the meantime, message me if you like, and we could explore whether we have anything in common that might grow a friendship.
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ninalanyon · 70-79, T
@hartfire I had Latin from 1st form to 3rd form. I'm terrible at languages and hated it while I was studying it. But I'm fascinated by languages so I pick up a lot of disconnected fragments. Ditto history, I gave it up as soon as I could at school but I like to know how the world came to be the way it is.
I've always been good at spelling, perhaps because my mother taught me to read before I went to school. In junior high school I had a very strict English teacher who was very keen to instil precision in writing. As with Latin very few of us in the class enjoyed it but it turned out to have given us useful skills.
Later, in senior high school my Eng. Lit. teacher was a minor playwright (sadly I've forgotten his name) who succeeded in teaching us to analyse texts.
I'm not claiming that I'm actually good at languages and literary criticism, just that I appreciate them :-)
In fact I think that learning how to read critically is probably the single most important thing that students should be taught, unfortunately it seems to be rarely done and I count myself fortunate to have lived where and when I did.
I have a bachelor's degree in Applied Physics, graduated almost half a century ago. I wonder if my alma mater will organize a reunion.
I would say that my schools were distinctly better than average and did their best to make me well educated but I'm not going to claim that I actually am in any grand sense of the word!
I've always been good at spelling, perhaps because my mother taught me to read before I went to school. In junior high school I had a very strict English teacher who was very keen to instil precision in writing. As with Latin very few of us in the class enjoyed it but it turned out to have given us useful skills.
Later, in senior high school my Eng. Lit. teacher was a minor playwright (sadly I've forgotten his name) who succeeded in teaching us to analyse texts.
I'm not claiming that I'm actually good at languages and literary criticism, just that I appreciate them :-)
In fact I think that learning how to read critically is probably the single most important thing that students should be taught, unfortunately it seems to be rarely done and I count myself fortunate to have lived where and when I did.
I have a bachelor's degree in Applied Physics, graduated almost half a century ago. I wonder if my alma mater will organize a reunion.
I would say that my schools were distinctly better than average and did their best to make me well educated but I'm not going to claim that I actually am in any grand sense of the word!
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meggie · F
I think you will settle in and love it. There will be other nervous new people too and a new job to learn and a new place to explore when you are off duty. It will be so exciting too to visit home too and tell everyone about your new life. Give it a chance, otherwise you will always wonder what could of been. Good luck.
Birdbox1986 · 31-35, F
Did you steal my job is that why you’re scared of your parents, at your age?
Bluebell1 · 26-30, F
@Birdbox1986 maam 🙏😭
Ben1000 · 41-45, M
Don’t worry you’ll be fine.
I remember worrying like you when I went to Australia as I would be over the other side of the world staying in hostels with strangers and was on my own.
But as soon as you getting chatting to a few people you start to relax and find there’s nothing to worry about.
I remember worrying like you when I went to Australia as I would be over the other side of the world staying in hostels with strangers and was on my own.
But as soon as you getting chatting to a few people you start to relax and find there’s nothing to worry about.
Simplyme33 · 31-35, F
Dont panic dear. Last year, just abt this time,I was just lile to. Had to move to another city for work with no one familair around. I also had to stay in hostel.
I was so scared, so lost but it is all in ur head. Bc its unknown. Once u get familiar with the place it becomes pretty easy. So look at it like a new adventure. I got transferred to another city after 8 months but Im so glad it happened. Made me believe in myself more. Never thought I could last being alone for that much of time but I was strong and it wasnt even hard.
Plus we r all here with u. Through ur shifts. So dont worry dear😊
I was so scared, so lost but it is all in ur head. Bc its unknown. Once u get familiar with the place it becomes pretty easy. So look at it like a new adventure. I got transferred to another city after 8 months but Im so glad it happened. Made me believe in myself more. Never thought I could last being alone for that much of time but I was strong and it wasnt even hard.
Plus we r all here with u. Through ur shifts. So dont worry dear😊
SinlessOnslaught · M
I relate to this, not because I'm in your exact situation right now but because I will soon have to be in a similar situation.
I just try to remember that I never know who I will meet. There might be that rare person who is genuinely good and whom I trust. Yes it will take time to open up to them but at least it's not just a stagnant situation (given I meet this person).
At the end of the day, at least I have the capability to choose who I trust and and who I don't.
Good luck to you.
I just try to remember that I never know who I will meet. There might be that rare person who is genuinely good and whom I trust. Yes it will take time to open up to them but at least it's not just a stagnant situation (given I meet this person).
At the end of the day, at least I have the capability to choose who I trust and and who I don't.
Good luck to you.
an hour by car is still within (annoyingloy long and hard, but possible) walking range. you got this.
