I've dated/ was in a relationship with women on both the sides of this argument. I understand the pressures and commitments you're talking about.

I feel exhausted reading this.

Publish or perish... It doesn't sound like fun...

A thankless job where your research gets plagiarised / stolen after being rejected.

The world now is open and all you need to do is publish in the open.

The academics by itself is a sham.