My coworker saw me retract a decision and said to me
"you have to stick to it or the boss will think you are not confident!!"
I told him that the boss had rolled his eyes when I had asked him if it's okay for me to use XYZ. So I retracted the decision to use it lest it would offend him. As it's primarily his project, so he gets veto power over things.
My coworker said "oh it's not your business if he gets offended! That's on him not on you!"
But my last year's whole entire experience just flashed before my eyes, I couldn't say anything obviously. Something trivial like that had caused the domino effect for me and all the bullying and trauma. He wouldn't understand where I'm coming from. So I just nodded and agreed with him. At The same time I thought he's so lucky for nothing like that to have happened to him for him to be as traumatized as I am. And so are the rest of the confident coworkers I have. It's so easy for them to say this. Wow.
The day went on.
I told him that the boss had rolled his eyes when I had asked him if it's okay for me to use XYZ. So I retracted the decision to use it lest it would offend him. As it's primarily his project, so he gets veto power over things.
My coworker said "oh it's not your business if he gets offended! That's on him not on you!"
But my last year's whole entire experience just flashed before my eyes, I couldn't say anything obviously. Something trivial like that had caused the domino effect for me and all the bullying and trauma. He wouldn't understand where I'm coming from. So I just nodded and agreed with him. At The same time I thought he's so lucky for nothing like that to have happened to him for him to be as traumatized as I am. And so are the rest of the confident coworkers I have. It's so easy for them to say this. Wow.
The day went on.
31-35, F
