How do i approach this ??

Today at work while waiting for a theatre case which got delayed due to an addition before our patient , it was my boss and myself waiting in theatre , my boss kept on saying her husband is going to be upset because we are going to finish late , she said she only has the helper to help with her kid till 6pm . She kept behaving impatient saying why is the current case taking so long . Kept making comments like oh the dr (who we were assisting) must buy us supper . Even went to the extent saying im gonna tell Dr you said he must buy us supper thats when i said dont you dare , because honestly i was just sitting there waiting . I have no kids , no husband . Nobody waiting for me . I had eaten some lunch . I had nothing to say that was similar to what she was saying . So at 2pm when i checked with Dr he said we will be an hour (they were running late) my boss said oh we would go have some coffee and come back . We went to get coffee . Came back within an hour an they were still busy so i just sat one side n my boss was there too . But yes while waiting she went on n on n on about her husband and her maid and supper and dr must buy us burgers . We ended up goinh to start our case now at 4:26pm .we get to theatre n she tells the dr ,oh its my bday and i had supper plans he looked at her n said leave YAYASIM(me) n go .... N well we all that are involved with the case start to prepare only for my boss to say to me after a few phone calls to her husband "once we done set up you can go home" ...... now this pissed me off over and beyond no lie . Because after making all those comments from earlier going on n on n on non stop , n making me wait with her just to tell me i can go , when she complained non stop n moaned non stop .
This is very frustrating and i dont know how to approach this and even find the right words to bring her attention to the way she behaved .
I dont want to approach it alone as i feel i will get a bullshit story from her , im not sure to speak to her with her husband present , or with the psychologist present or with our company receptionist present as there are just three of us in the company itself .
Advise please ! I feel like im loosing my mind with her .

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JamesBugman · 56-60, T

Ask yourself a few questions
1) will confrontation about this improve the situation?
2) is this a situation that is likely to repeat, and fighting the fight might improve things for next time?
3) how tolerant is your boss to honest opinions?

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

In all business dealings be professional.

It's unfortunate you have a specialist role subservient to those driven largely by ego. And Surgeons are renowned for it.

Obviously you don't want to do anything that brings your professionalism into question.
So it's probably not a good idea to take your complaint elsewhere until you've given your boss the chance to explain herself to you directly.
On rethinking she might well see the position she put you in as unfair and apologise.

The problem from my perspective is even if she agrees that she acted poorly, what's to stop the same situation arising again ?

That, i think is probably in the nature of the job you do.
And she might well throw that at you in response !
So you should be prepared for that.

But it's not an unreasonable thing to point out.

It's a tough spot to be in and of course you don't know what the possible repercussions of confronting her might be.
But you should probably say that because you respect her position you would hope she understands the respect she ought to have for yours.

GeniUs · 56-60, M

If she makes that statement to the doctor, maybe shake your head a little and say, "I said nothing of the sort you did, if you want to ask for something don't try and transfer your poorly thought out ideas onto somebody else." If you can do this in as bored sounding a voice as possible (think Vulcan from Star Trek).

Manneeds

I would bring them all in and lay everything in the table clean abd clear abd tell them all you will not put upbwithbthis or allow this to hapoen every again and stand your groubd on everything and do not back down do not relent in any way shape or form clean and clear period !

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