She is 18 (but looks much younger). He is late 30s or early 40s

A musician at the market I'm a part of has been seriously creeping on this adorable, sweet vendor. He's been sending her inappropriate messages on Instagram, stalking around her booth, and buying her drinks, being pushy.

I didn't know about it, but today she was away from her booth and I went and found her. She was crying because of how uncomfortable she was.

I talked to her and she told me what was going on, but she didn't want anyone to know or to make a big deal out of it. I asked her if she wanted to tell the market manager so we could deal with it. She didn't want to. I hummed and hawed about it but decided to tell the manager anyway, and explained to the farmer she works for what is going on.

No one should have to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed because some guy is being a creep. I feel bad for doing it and I will talk to her next week and apologise, and explain that we want to support her. The market manager and woman she works for are both lovely and I know she will feel better for it being dealt with.

I think she's lovely and so sweet and I want to protect her. It makes me so angry 😤😤 she was so scared looking I just hate it

She is also not at all interested in men so he can fk off

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SW-User

at 18, it can be hard to stand up to that type of unwanted attention. i suspect she'll be grateful, and probably stand up for people her age when she's older. you did the right thing. i might have just confronted the man, myself, but i think what you did was a better choice

caccoon · 36-40

@SW-User yes, exactly. I had a lot of that sort of thing happen when I was younger and it just made me sick and sad. She shouldn't have to feel that uncomfortable or embarrassed.

I almost did confront him, tbh.

I stood and stared at him deliberately as he hung around, waiting for her. But thought it would be best to involve management and talk to her employer (who is SUCH A COOL CHICK). Try to keep it small but make her know we've got her back.

SW-User

@caccoon good on you. create a protective force around her. if her boss had been anything less than cool, you might have had to confront him. i used to have to confront creeps lurking around and leering at minors at my job as a theater manager when i was in college. not on my watch. it's good y'all have her back.

caccoon · 36-40

@SW-User totally! And the person she works for is a super cool hippie farmer lady, so she went right into action to protect her which is awesome 💙