How would you handle a coworker ( your trainer) who speaks to you in a very condescending tone?

She doesn't speak to ANYONE ELSE the way she speaks to me.

She'll route back items that I've made a mistake on ( through the computer) and wont say whats wrong with it. When I ask, i get told to figure it out. Like in a rude way. Anyone else asks " oh look right here, you forgot [blank]".

I haven't even been here for a month and I'm tired of putting up with her antics.

The manager seems rude herself. She's never asked how things/ training is going.

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with this.

I was going to suggest talking to someone over her, until I saw the part about the manager being rude too. You could talk to the manager anyway, as it might be more productive than talking to her about it. I have a feeling, from what you've said, that talking directly with your trainer might not do much good. Maybe you're more skilled at confronting people, tactfully but firmly, than I am, but I think I would either go up the chain of command or start looking for another job.

If the manager isn't any help, maybe see if there's anyone over her?

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@TeresaRudolph71 yea but what about the chain of command? Wouldn't I at least have to speak to her first?

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@iamnikki Your trainer? I suppose so, and then her manager, or supervisor.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@TeresaRudolph71 right. And our manager doesn't seem to friendly. I would have to do something. I want to at least make it to 3 months. I thought I'd make a career with this company. Silly me. Don't think i can transfer until 1 year

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@iamnikki That sounds like a difficult situation. I have occasionally been surprised to find out that someone was nicer than I thought they were, but I'm afraid that's rather rare. Transferring may be a good idea, but a year can be a long time in a situation like that. I hope that you're able to eventually talk with someone who will be able and willing to help. If all else fails, perhaps HR could help, after you've exhausted all your other options.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@TeresaRudolph71 right. And i actually worked temporarily in HR at the same company before I transferred where i am now. It was only 1 month but maybe i can reach out to the recruiter? Im just afraid that word could get to my manager that im looking/ asking about other jobs...

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@iamnikki Hmm, is your recruiter discreet? What do you think they could say if you let them know that you didn't want your manager to know that you were looking for other opportunities?

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@TeresaRudolph71 I don't know him well enough to ask that of him. I really dont know who to ask, as far as who I can trust. The manager over there was very friendly. I did a good job there. She told me to keep in touch. I haven't since I don't know if managers & teachers really mean it you know.