Why did the manager tell me not to take it personal, but when I said it to her she took it personal?

there's an old cliché [i][c=#800000]"do as i say … not as i do"[/c][/i] … seems could fit in this example.

how the heck would we know?
could you be a little more vague? I almost got that there was communication of some sort between, potentially, two people. But if need be I shall jump to all sorts of conclusions for you.

With women, it always gets personal.