Is it inappropriate to hug a colleague in front of their partner if you always greet with a hug?

I went out somewhere and bumped into a male colleague.

As I've been off for the year on mat leave I've not seen him.

We were both just as excited to see each other.
Anyways he reached his hands out and so did I and did that side hug.
Nothing longer than a few seconds.

Anyways his wife was there and this was my first time meeting her.

And their children, I reached my hand out to shake her hand and she rejected it.

The kids remembered me and gave me high 5's.

I didn't feel odd about hugging him as it's our usual way to greet each other especially as we work in a " family ".

I mean I'm also now 6 months pregnant with my second.

I have had doubts since that I was inappropriate and offended her which wasn't my intention at all. 🫤

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OldBrit · 61-69, M

Difficult to comment on the colleague bit as can't remember ever happening.

But I get it with AA friends all the time, male or female there's a special bond in the AA hug. And we just don't think about it we just hug.

A month or so ago I went to a public meeting in our church, which Iong ago stopped regularly attending. An old AA friend is Church Warden there. He's also lifelong biker. So he's there in full biker gear, denim cutoff over leather jacket patches galore etc. He talking to the vicar as I walk in but we just hug as we always do.

Only as we separate do I realise there's shock all around, two men in their 60s, one with a suit on one in biker gear hugging openly by the font in a church.

Oh well their problem not mine is how I view it.

You're fine in that it was reciprocated by him. If there's a problem with his wife she needs to look at herself not you and him imho.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@OldBrit thank you. Glad you found help and friends to keep you going x