Having a hard time reading people at work
I have built , I thought a repor, banter with a guy thats usually easy to start with. I am talking about these past 4 months, but its friendly banter. I might have even thrown some compliments out like no one here has a sense of humor but him. I was really trying to be honest.
In the past month, he hasnt spoken to me. Just a morning greeting. I became insecure. Which means I tend to back away and minimize talk. I have been there 4 years and this other lady used to not talk to him because she said he is sneaky ...even tho she tell me that , he was my co-worker and I still spoke to him. Not on a personal level , he never gave me free range. I have always asked him how his weekend was ...he would always say fine. If i knew he went golfing , I asked him how it went or if he won. He would have 1 worded answers. I would ask him questions to get to know him. 1 word. I stopped. I felt like I was prying. He never talked to me. Maybe once when he was at work for 4 hours before he took the day off. It was great. He was real laid back
Recently, why I am writing this segment to give you a back story , I have been sinking. Sinking in conversation. Been lonely and wanting friends at work. This woman who for years been a trouble maker with saying ppl are sneaky or just not doing their work and taking pictures of ppl who have had their head down and sending it to an outsider friend ( she told me years ago ) and soneone she felt is a know it all , someone she doesnt like BUT not she is hired in our department ... she is sucking up becoming their friend.
She has somehow got the guy i practically have to pull conversation out ,pull teeth to talk, got him to open up to her. I dont get it. He knows shes a trouble maker. I heard them talking personal, like something happened to his parents , got robbed and she was showing her concern how worried she was. I was sitting there like what is going on. She never makes talk with me and im the most genuine person and im nice to her. Ive tried to train her , ive listened to her bitch about everyone, i have given her a gift card for when she lost her brother to suicide , i have given her extra cookies when i brought in for everyone, i have given her a halliween bracelet , her choice. She is very rude and selfish. Even after all this , she doesnt talk to me the way she speaks to this guy, showing concern. When my step son died , no one approached me or emailed me or showed concern so maybe i have a small bug up my ass but not in person ... only inside.
I guess I am wondering why this guy co worker gives me short answers but like sometimes he tries to talk to me asking stupid shit about work or if i am gonna have a donut. I have been distant because I am annoyed. I have given him free golf accessories. Not recent , but earlier this year. When his uncle died , i reached out in an email giving him my condolences.
He doesnt know much about me but he doesnt try to get to know me. He knows my husband. Not real well. But his personality. Hubby used to work at same company and come over to tease me in front of my co workers or make convo with some of them. This was 2 years ago. Maybe they didnt like him.
Maybe they dont like me. I dont know.
In the past month, he hasnt spoken to me. Just a morning greeting. I became insecure. Which means I tend to back away and minimize talk. I have been there 4 years and this other lady used to not talk to him because she said he is sneaky ...even tho she tell me that , he was my co-worker and I still spoke to him. Not on a personal level , he never gave me free range. I have always asked him how his weekend was ...he would always say fine. If i knew he went golfing , I asked him how it went or if he won. He would have 1 worded answers. I would ask him questions to get to know him. 1 word. I stopped. I felt like I was prying. He never talked to me. Maybe once when he was at work for 4 hours before he took the day off. It was great. He was real laid back
Recently, why I am writing this segment to give you a back story , I have been sinking. Sinking in conversation. Been lonely and wanting friends at work. This woman who for years been a trouble maker with saying ppl are sneaky or just not doing their work and taking pictures of ppl who have had their head down and sending it to an outsider friend ( she told me years ago ) and soneone she felt is a know it all , someone she doesnt like BUT not she is hired in our department ... she is sucking up becoming their friend.
She has somehow got the guy i practically have to pull conversation out ,pull teeth to talk, got him to open up to her. I dont get it. He knows shes a trouble maker. I heard them talking personal, like something happened to his parents , got robbed and she was showing her concern how worried she was. I was sitting there like what is going on. She never makes talk with me and im the most genuine person and im nice to her. Ive tried to train her , ive listened to her bitch about everyone, i have given her a gift card for when she lost her brother to suicide , i have given her extra cookies when i brought in for everyone, i have given her a halliween bracelet , her choice. She is very rude and selfish. Even after all this , she doesnt talk to me the way she speaks to this guy, showing concern. When my step son died , no one approached me or emailed me or showed concern so maybe i have a small bug up my ass but not in person ... only inside.
I guess I am wondering why this guy co worker gives me short answers but like sometimes he tries to talk to me asking stupid shit about work or if i am gonna have a donut. I have been distant because I am annoyed. I have given him free golf accessories. Not recent , but earlier this year. When his uncle died , i reached out in an email giving him my condolences.
He doesnt know much about me but he doesnt try to get to know me. He knows my husband. Not real well. But his personality. Hubby used to work at same company and come over to tease me in front of my co workers or make convo with some of them. This was 2 years ago. Maybe they didnt like him.
Maybe they dont like me. I dont know.
