I don't believe the new boss likes me much.

He wanted to sit down with us each to get to know us. Of everyone he spoke with I had the shortest meeting. He asked me how long I've been in the industry. I told him but it was hard to speak because he wouldn't let me speak. He would ask questions and when I would answer he would let me say a few words and would speak over me. I wouldn't let him do that so I continued speaking until I was done answering. Maybe I was being rude but I feel the answer should be heard not spoken over.

I could tell he was trying to end our talk quickly and push me away. I could see it in his body language. Maybe he doesn't like direct eye contact or someone speaking with confidence. I'm not sure what the deal was but he did not want to talk to me.

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Grateful4you · M

He sounds insecure and really un-qualified for his position. As a former employer, I would never talk like that. I sought to create a happy, positive environment and EMPOWER each employee based on individual strengths I obseved.

deepblacknothingness · 61-69, M

@Grateful4you That is how it should be. You take care of the staff we perform well. Interestingly enough some think he might be misogynistic. The women who work here experienced being talked over and ignored. I'm not female but get mistaken quite often for being female. Perhaps he was trying to "put me in my place." Never mind my 30+ years of experience.

Grateful4you · M

@deepblacknothingness (Shakes head) I'm just lucky being gay never kept me from climbing the corporate ladder. My staff loved me and our production topped all other depts.

deepblacknothingness · 61-69, M

@Grateful4you I'm glad to hear your success was never hindered due to your orientation. Unfortunately for some they have a far different story. A friend of mine kept getting passed over for promotions for being openly gay. I can't imagine being told all the time how great of a worker you are or how you would suit the role but never getting promoted. His experience is partly why I keep my own identity to myself. I am glad you have a positive story to tell.

Grateful4you · M

@deepblacknothingness That's horrible. I'm very masculine so rarely can people tell. My secret in the workplace, was to delegate many of my own responsibilities which empowered them, and allowed me focus on creative projects. I think great management takes intuition and empathy for others.