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Tatsumi · 31-35, M
@SW-User TL;DR: Humans are classified as "serial monigamists", not monogamists. This does not meld with permenant or long-term "committment".
Nonsense. People are people, as they always have been. There is not much different with present day humans than humans 20,000 years ago. We're the same kind. The only difference is modern humans have more knowledge--but what drives us remains the same. Males still want to stick their dick in 80% of the female population; females still want to bang the best males and consistently upgrade.
Present day humans *consider* themselves monogamist, because that's what society enforces. And they *still* cheat and bounce from one to the next. It would be like me raising a boy to be a girl. Yeah, he would behave like a girl. But, it wouldn't change his male instincts, which would lead to a host of issues for him.
You could bone 500 people a year anf still call yourself a "monogamist", because you only do one at a time. Which is serial monogamy, btw, not actual monogamy.
True monogamy is like geese. They stay with one mate, and never get another one, even if it dies. Humans are definitely and obviously not that. And "serial monogamists"--our official classification--is a joke; because, it's closer to polyamory than true monogamy.
As such, going back throughout history, marriages weren't bonds of unshakable foundations. In fact, the origin of marriage was simply a business contract. There was virtually no romanticism in marriage [otherwise known as the goal of dating]. It was just something people did to ensure their family's prosperty. Sell off their 12 year old daughter to some rich merchant, and you were in the green; partner up two of different royal nobility to prevent war. That's the origin of marriage. People like to idolize the past, but it was a lot shittier in most ways.
Religion *did* enforce marriage more in the past, which added an extra layer of fear of leaving: the fear of making the church or society disapprove. But, even then, it didn't stop people from boning a bunch of other people, married or not. Just more in secret.
Humans are serial monogamists, in any case, as our official designation. And that does not meld with long-term, permenant "commitment". We jump from one to the next, and that is when we are happiest. Our brain's are set up this way. Oxytocin and vassopressin levels decline sharply after 6 months to 2 years with the same person, leading to boredom and irritation.
I could go on, but it's already too long.
Nonsense. People are people, as they always have been. There is not much different with present day humans than humans 20,000 years ago. We're the same kind. The only difference is modern humans have more knowledge--but what drives us remains the same. Males still want to stick their dick in 80% of the female population; females still want to bang the best males and consistently upgrade.
Present day humans *consider* themselves monogamist, because that's what society enforces. And they *still* cheat and bounce from one to the next. It would be like me raising a boy to be a girl. Yeah, he would behave like a girl. But, it wouldn't change his male instincts, which would lead to a host of issues for him.
You could bone 500 people a year anf still call yourself a "monogamist", because you only do one at a time. Which is serial monogamy, btw, not actual monogamy.
True monogamy is like geese. They stay with one mate, and never get another one, even if it dies. Humans are definitely and obviously not that. And "serial monogamists"--our official classification--is a joke; because, it's closer to polyamory than true monogamy.
As such, going back throughout history, marriages weren't bonds of unshakable foundations. In fact, the origin of marriage was simply a business contract. There was virtually no romanticism in marriage [otherwise known as the goal of dating]. It was just something people did to ensure their family's prosperty. Sell off their 12 year old daughter to some rich merchant, and you were in the green; partner up two of different royal nobility to prevent war. That's the origin of marriage. People like to idolize the past, but it was a lot shittier in most ways.
Religion *did* enforce marriage more in the past, which added an extra layer of fear of leaving: the fear of making the church or society disapprove. But, even then, it didn't stop people from boning a bunch of other people, married or not. Just more in secret.
Humans are serial monogamists, in any case, as our official designation. And that does not meld with long-term, permenant "commitment". We jump from one to the next, and that is when we are happiest. Our brain's are set up this way. Oxytocin and vassopressin levels decline sharply after 6 months to 2 years with the same person, leading to boredom and irritation.
I could go on, but it's already too long.