Why do I ALWAYS end up liking boys when it's a complicated situation?
But when it's simple and straight forward, i'm like nah
UGH
UGH
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You're the only person who can answer that question.
There's quite a lot written on the subject. Two excellent writers on it are Harville Hendrix and John Bradfield.
The theory goes like this...
When we are very young, we form our ways of bonding with others as a result of the dynamics of the relationships with and between the various members of our family.
Later, in adulthood, when we meet others whose traits of speech and behaviour unconsciously remind us of our primary caregivers, we feel drawn to connect with them. Very often these people actually suffer from the same sets of problems, and so they end up triggering our unresolved issues.
If we resolve those issues within ourselves, we become free of being attracted to such people, and they are no longer attracted to us.
We become attractive and attracted to a person who is much more functional.
Since no one is completely without issues, and differences are an inevitable part of individuality, no relationship will ever be without problems.
Then the art of a successful relationship becomes one of learning how to listen, and communicate clearly in expressing feelings and needs. This is not as simple as it seems, because our normal language and cultural ways of thinking do not teach it.
An excellent writer on communication is Marshall Rosenberg.
Wishing you all the best in your journey. :)
There's quite a lot written on the subject. Two excellent writers on it are Harville Hendrix and John Bradfield.
The theory goes like this...
When we are very young, we form our ways of bonding with others as a result of the dynamics of the relationships with and between the various members of our family.
Later, in adulthood, when we meet others whose traits of speech and behaviour unconsciously remind us of our primary caregivers, we feel drawn to connect with them. Very often these people actually suffer from the same sets of problems, and so they end up triggering our unresolved issues.
If we resolve those issues within ourselves, we become free of being attracted to such people, and they are no longer attracted to us.
We become attractive and attracted to a person who is much more functional.
Since no one is completely without issues, and differences are an inevitable part of individuality, no relationship will ever be without problems.
Then the art of a successful relationship becomes one of learning how to listen, and communicate clearly in expressing feelings and needs. This is not as simple as it seems, because our normal language and cultural ways of thinking do not teach it.
An excellent writer on communication is Marshall Rosenberg.
Wishing you all the best in your journey. :)
offingg · 26-30, F
@clothos: i don't think it's my parents, I think I had a healthy in environment at home. But at school, not so much. Maybe it's about another type of care givers like teachers
@offingg: I'm sure you will discover your own correct answers inside you, whatever they are and whatever the cause.
Just asking the question already puts you on the right track.
Just asking the question already puts you on the right track.