Do you think some people are not deserving of forgiveness?

People always say you should forgive someone so you can heal and move on from something horrific that happened. Do you think it works? If the person Doesn't seem remorseful, do you think the y deserve forgiveness?

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KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M

A lot of times forgiving someone is more for your benefit than theirs. Just don't trust them again.

NewBecky · 51-55, F

@KingofPizza: Trust is part of forgiveness... which is why you cannot TRULY forgive if they do not repent. If you forgive someone then you hold nothing against them.

KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M

@sailnude: Is it though? I must be forgiving wrong then.

NewBecky · 51-55, F

@KingofPizza: We only look at forgiveness differently and I tend to be rather dogmatic and opinionated. Sorry for that!

But I think you are simply not getting stressed about what people have done to you. You are turning the other cheek when someone hits you. But that is different than forgiving,... in my opinion. :)

KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M

@sailnude: Ha, fair enough. But yeah I just feel like trusting again without the other person putting forth some serious kind of effort at reform is basically akin to not learning anything from the experience. So that's part of why I define forgiveness the way I do.