Have you attained a balance where your individuality and your relationship don't come in the way of each other?

Surely if you are in a relationship with someone its because you like their individuality? If you werent attracted to the thing that makes them unique then it seems strange to be with them? At the same time you can be with someone and accept them for who they are even if you find a quality about them beyond irritating, if you love someone you love them for them, the balance is a part of making the relationship work.