Isn't it funny how we see people how we want them to be or think that they are, but reality is they aren't anything like that?

This whole concept twists my brain, but we want to see what we want to see in others and often ignore what is really there....thus the term 'red flag' comes to mind. Had we really seen what was there versus what we wanted to see, perhaps we would look the other way. Just a thought.

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IM5688 · 61-69, M

I think you are correct. We tend to see/hear what we want to see/hear many times avoiding what we should see/hear. However, I also think that, to a certain point, it's part of human nature for us to do this.

OWise1 · F

I think you're right because let's face it, we all want to be wanted and feel love versus rejection and we don't always like to reject others either...

IM5688 · 61-69, M

@OWise1: I think some of us act out of loneliness and/or desperation also. We may know someone is not right for us, but yet we will continue for fear of being alone or with the hopes of changing the person to be what you want.

OWise1 · F

@IM5688: I agree...relationships and people and human beings are all so confusing and tough...no one is alike...one can't use certain unspoken rules on every person...just so complicated...

IM5688 · 61-69, M

It's not really tough. If you know what you want and hold steadfast until you get what you want, it's easy. The problem lies with our impatience to wait, so rather than wait until the right person comes into our life, we "settle" for one that maybe comes close. After a time, the criteria as for what comes close becomes more and more open.

OWise1 · F

All I can say, is "oy vey!" You are so correct...so so so correct.