When did you feel the laziest and most unwilling to get any work done?
Are some people just born lazy and unmotivated?
Why are some people lazy? and why are some other people motivated and hard working?? I am trying so hard not to be lazy. Maybe im not trying hard enough? Is it genetic? Some people are born with a lower IQ, maybe i was born with... low willpower?
From the limited research that i have done, i know that motivation has multiple factors. ( having a reason and goals, general well being). But i have goals.
I have been told so so many times i am lazy. By my parents, my teachers and even my ex told me im lazy. My room is a mess, i dont do anything all day except waste time and procrastinate. I looked online for advice. "You dont need motivation, you need discipline" or the classic "Action comes first, motivation comes after." Well starting is not the hardest for me. I can make myself go to my desk and start writing the paper i need to write. It does feels like hell, and then, after 5 minutes, it... feels like hell, and then after 15 minutes it still fells like hell. Starting is not the hard part. Doing the whole thing is hard part. I dont understand how people do hard stuff. Am i too weak? But why am I weak? I have been told im not trying hard enough. That im comfortable. But I really am trying. It is bothering me so much. I wanted to end it all because of this reason. My self esteem is shit, i feel worthless. Sometimes people reply to my other posts with "you might have adhd". Okay and what about the other people that are like me? I know im not the only lazy person. There are contless people that dont do anything with their lives. I just want to understand what im doing wrong, why are some people more successfull and why some are not. Formerly lazy people, what things did you do to overcome your laziness? What is the laziest thing you've ever done? Which means: I have goals, dreams and aspirations, I just don't have the willpower to go for it. And instead of feeling guilt, shame and regret all the time I'd rather just die (suicide isn't a scary taboo topic for me). It's like if happiness was a low-hanging fruit and all I needed to do is to raise my hand and take it, but I'm too lazy in my comfort. Pathetic, I know. On top of that I'm also a procrastinator, perfectionist, threat-motivated, computer addict and always comparing myself to others and seeing life as a race. The only good thing that I've got going for me is that I lift weights at home 3 times a week for three years now. I haven't stopped because I know that once I'll intentionally skip a day, I'll stop altogether. I don't think that life is meaningless or that happiness is impossible, I don't think that nobody likes me, I don't think that life should be fair or easy. I don't want to receive any special benefits, nobody owes my anything. I'm just not fit for existence. If I was an animal, I'd been eaten long time ago – survival of the fittest. Have anyone here felt this way? I'm going to see a psychiatrist on Monday. Is there something I could do to make the appointment more effective? How I went from being lazy to being productive 8h+ a day
I used to waste my days playing video games, watching YouTube, Netflix and TikTok and doing pretty much nothing. My apartment was a mess, I only went shopping when there was literally nothing left in my cupboards. I stayed awake until late at night (1-4ish AM), slept in and got out of bed around noon. I jerked of at least once a day which caused my brain to be foggy pretty much all the time.
What did I change?
It's not really about motivation or some great inspiration or anything like that. Those are impulses that come from outside. They may be effective for a short amount of time but definitely won't last for long.
You have to change your mindset. To be more specific: You have to change your mindset about three things:
attention
time
progress
Attention
Pretty much anything out there is begging for your attention. You've clicked on this post because it got your attention. You watch that YouTube video because it grabbed your attention. You get on your phone because the notification sound got your attention.
Pretty much any plattform, game, etc. you spend time on makes money off of your attention. They run ads, they make you subscribe to their services, they dare you to buy the new expansion pack or spend some money on ingame cosmetics.
Don't be so careless with your attention. These platforms get you hooked by giving you tons of dopamine as a reward for your attention, which is released by colorful, funny and loud videos, a bunch of likes and comments under your latest post or cool adventures in video games.
Be aware that this is happening to you. Every day!
Time
Time is something we actually have a lot of but somehow it still always feels like there is far to little of it. Why is that? Assuming you sleep 8 hours a day and spend 2 hours making and eating food leaves you with still 14 hours of time every day. What can you do with that amout of time?
Let's say it takes about 1 hour to clean up your house/apartment. That's just 7% of the spare time you have every day.
Studying for 6 hours a day won't even consume half of the time you have left.
If you'd work those 14 hours (even for minimum wage, 7.25$/h) you'd get more than 100$ - and most of you reading this will earn more than minimum wage.
Where does all this time go? It goes where your attention is. If your attention is on dopamine bombs like social media, video games, and the like, then your day also suddenly has little time left. You end up feeling bad about it and try to drown your sorrows with just more dopamine.
Even spending 2 hours a day on studying will give you 14 hours worth of knowledge a week and make you feel way better than before!
Be aware that your time follows your attention. You've got enough time to do anything you want or have to do. Time is not the problem, what you waste it on is!
Progress
Progress is believed to be linear and that's a big mistake. It's easy to think that simply putting in twice the amout of time will bring twice the results but that's a myth. At first, progress will go very slow. That's why you're not able to change your habits in one week, why you can't just turn your life around and keep it that way.
Progress is slow at the beginning, but gets faster and faster. Instead of jumping in big steps and using up all your motivation and energy, you can better take smaller steps. Don't take on a lot of things at once, just one at a time. Once that thing is really working, you can move on to the next one. Because something is already working well, it gives you more motivation for the second thing, for the third thing and so on.
This thing can be anything you want: A habit, a hobby, a skill, etc.
So like the title says, when I get home from work I become extremely lazy within minutes of walking in the door. Multiple times throughout my workday I'll think about what I'm going to do after work and get genuinely happy and excited. I never follow through though, even if it's something as simple as playing a video game. I'm not lazy at work or anywhere else I go but as soon as I walk through the door, it's a complete 180. I don't feel like doing anything except grabbing some food and sitting on the couch. It's such a drastic change in attitude and I'm really not understanding what's going on.
And it's not like I'm feeling beat up from my job or anything like that. I love the work I'm doing and I'm always learning and solving new problems. It's not too physically demanding. There's no real stress related to my job.
I sometimes think I'm just a lazy person and that's all there is to it. But I generally enjoy being productive or actively doing something. Except when I'm at home. I feel like a completely different person.
Progress is exponential. It starts slow and the more you walk across that path, the faster and better things will go. You only have to stick through the slow initial phase. After that, exponential growth will do most of the work for you, you'll just have to keep investing time and attentions.
If you feel inspired now and want to completely rebuild your life starting tomorrow, you may not have fully understood my statement. It's fine if you want to change something after reading this post, but as I said, don't rush it.
If you use up all your motivation within a few days, you'll feel empty/down again, so you'll start craving for dopamine and go back to your bad habits.
If you want to change something, change just one little thing tomorrow. The day after tomorrow, change another little thing. Take a small step into the right direction every day. Nothing more, nothing less. The last 8 months I have been living at my parents house, having no job, not studying, not even doing much of the household. I really want to have a life where I do productive things, but looking back at the last 8 months and after having tried so much, including therapy and medications, tells me I'm probably just a lazy person.
I have had depression and multiple burn-outs for 5 years, and its obvious that they make me unproductive HOWEVER having those issues doesn't exclude the possibility of being a lazy person. Maybe, besides being depressed and burnt out, I am also just a lazy person. If this is the case I can probably never be productive.
I see laziness as a characteristic. That just like your favorite color, can't be changed. If I wanted to change my favorite color from green to yellow, then no amount of therapy would be able to help me with that. I think there are some things we can not change about ourselves.
I have a few questions
If someone is just a lazy person, will they be unproductive the rest of their life?
Am I just a lazy person, considering the first sentence in this post?
Ihave tried years of therapy, advices from people, medication... everything. And nothing has ever helped me to be more productive. What I need is more motivation and energy. There seems to be no way to get it. I guess I am just lazy and the answer to this question will probably not help me, as it never did but.. what should I do? Should I just accept the fact I'm a lazy person, so I will never be very productive, or is there something else I can do? I (17M) am really lazy and due to that, I am struggling in school. It hasn't always been like that. I once was a model student and top of my class in most subjects, but the past 4 years have been hell for me. I am currently in the 11th grade getting my high school degree, but I feel like I am going to drop out. Whenever I start studying, I get easily distracted or feel a strong urge to not do it. I mean I have felt like that for a long time, but I always finished my homework at the last minute, so it hasn't been an issue until recently. The thing that has helped me the most has been offering to send my homework to my classmates, so I could feel encouraged to actually do it. Now even that doesn't help me. I just feel burnt out and can't force myself to do anything. I just feel like I am letting everyone down, but I don't have the strength to force myself to do it anymore. I have begun having panic attacks over it. As of now, I am on the line of dropping out. I have told my parents all about it, and they have told me just to finish my things as soon as possible and to just stop being lazy. I have tried to explain to them that I just can't. It feels as though my body won't listen to me. I'm lazy. How do you stay motivated to work out?
Ok, I admit it. I'm lazy. I'm middle aged and way out of shape. I want to get back in shape and I'll work out once or twice but never stay with it more than a week. I have the time, I just don't have the drive.
How do you get motivated and stay motivated to exercise on a regular basis?
Why are some people lazy? and why are some other people motivated and hard working?? I am trying so hard not to be lazy. Maybe im not trying hard enough? Is it genetic? Some people are born with a lower IQ, maybe i was born with... low willpower?
From the limited research that i have done, i know that motivation has multiple factors. ( having a reason and goals, general well being). But i have goals.
I have been told so so many times i am lazy. By my parents, my teachers and even my ex told me im lazy. My room is a mess, i dont do anything all day except waste time and procrastinate. I looked online for advice. "You dont need motivation, you need discipline" or the classic "Action comes first, motivation comes after." Well starting is not the hardest for me. I can make myself go to my desk and start writing the paper i need to write. It does feels like hell, and then, after 5 minutes, it... feels like hell, and then after 15 minutes it still fells like hell. Starting is not the hard part. Doing the whole thing is hard part. I dont understand how people do hard stuff. Am i too weak? But why am I weak? I have been told im not trying hard enough. That im comfortable. But I really am trying. It is bothering me so much. I wanted to end it all because of this reason. My self esteem is shit, i feel worthless. Sometimes people reply to my other posts with "you might have adhd". Okay and what about the other people that are like me? I know im not the only lazy person. There are contless people that dont do anything with their lives. I just want to understand what im doing wrong, why are some people more successfull and why some are not. Formerly lazy people, what things did you do to overcome your laziness? What is the laziest thing you've ever done? Which means: I have goals, dreams and aspirations, I just don't have the willpower to go for it. And instead of feeling guilt, shame and regret all the time I'd rather just die (suicide isn't a scary taboo topic for me). It's like if happiness was a low-hanging fruit and all I needed to do is to raise my hand and take it, but I'm too lazy in my comfort. Pathetic, I know. On top of that I'm also a procrastinator, perfectionist, threat-motivated, computer addict and always comparing myself to others and seeing life as a race. The only good thing that I've got going for me is that I lift weights at home 3 times a week for three years now. I haven't stopped because I know that once I'll intentionally skip a day, I'll stop altogether. I don't think that life is meaningless or that happiness is impossible, I don't think that nobody likes me, I don't think that life should be fair or easy. I don't want to receive any special benefits, nobody owes my anything. I'm just not fit for existence. If I was an animal, I'd been eaten long time ago – survival of the fittest. Have anyone here felt this way? I'm going to see a psychiatrist on Monday. Is there something I could do to make the appointment more effective? How I went from being lazy to being productive 8h+ a day
I used to waste my days playing video games, watching YouTube, Netflix and TikTok and doing pretty much nothing. My apartment was a mess, I only went shopping when there was literally nothing left in my cupboards. I stayed awake until late at night (1-4ish AM), slept in and got out of bed around noon. I jerked of at least once a day which caused my brain to be foggy pretty much all the time.
What did I change?
It's not really about motivation or some great inspiration or anything like that. Those are impulses that come from outside. They may be effective for a short amount of time but definitely won't last for long.
You have to change your mindset. To be more specific: You have to change your mindset about three things:
attention
time
progress
Attention
Pretty much anything out there is begging for your attention. You've clicked on this post because it got your attention. You watch that YouTube video because it grabbed your attention. You get on your phone because the notification sound got your attention.
Pretty much any plattform, game, etc. you spend time on makes money off of your attention. They run ads, they make you subscribe to their services, they dare you to buy the new expansion pack or spend some money on ingame cosmetics.
Don't be so careless with your attention. These platforms get you hooked by giving you tons of dopamine as a reward for your attention, which is released by colorful, funny and loud videos, a bunch of likes and comments under your latest post or cool adventures in video games.
Be aware that this is happening to you. Every day!
Time
Time is something we actually have a lot of but somehow it still always feels like there is far to little of it. Why is that? Assuming you sleep 8 hours a day and spend 2 hours making and eating food leaves you with still 14 hours of time every day. What can you do with that amout of time?
Let's say it takes about 1 hour to clean up your house/apartment. That's just 7% of the spare time you have every day.
Studying for 6 hours a day won't even consume half of the time you have left.
If you'd work those 14 hours (even for minimum wage, 7.25$/h) you'd get more than 100$ - and most of you reading this will earn more than minimum wage.
Where does all this time go? It goes where your attention is. If your attention is on dopamine bombs like social media, video games, and the like, then your day also suddenly has little time left. You end up feeling bad about it and try to drown your sorrows with just more dopamine.
Even spending 2 hours a day on studying will give you 14 hours worth of knowledge a week and make you feel way better than before!
Be aware that your time follows your attention. You've got enough time to do anything you want or have to do. Time is not the problem, what you waste it on is!
Progress
Progress is believed to be linear and that's a big mistake. It's easy to think that simply putting in twice the amout of time will bring twice the results but that's a myth. At first, progress will go very slow. That's why you're not able to change your habits in one week, why you can't just turn your life around and keep it that way.
Progress is slow at the beginning, but gets faster and faster. Instead of jumping in big steps and using up all your motivation and energy, you can better take smaller steps. Don't take on a lot of things at once, just one at a time. Once that thing is really working, you can move on to the next one. Because something is already working well, it gives you more motivation for the second thing, for the third thing and so on.
This thing can be anything you want: A habit, a hobby, a skill, etc.
So like the title says, when I get home from work I become extremely lazy within minutes of walking in the door. Multiple times throughout my workday I'll think about what I'm going to do after work and get genuinely happy and excited. I never follow through though, even if it's something as simple as playing a video game. I'm not lazy at work or anywhere else I go but as soon as I walk through the door, it's a complete 180. I don't feel like doing anything except grabbing some food and sitting on the couch. It's such a drastic change in attitude and I'm really not understanding what's going on.
And it's not like I'm feeling beat up from my job or anything like that. I love the work I'm doing and I'm always learning and solving new problems. It's not too physically demanding. There's no real stress related to my job.
I sometimes think I'm just a lazy person and that's all there is to it. But I generally enjoy being productive or actively doing something. Except when I'm at home. I feel like a completely different person.
Progress is exponential. It starts slow and the more you walk across that path, the faster and better things will go. You only have to stick through the slow initial phase. After that, exponential growth will do most of the work for you, you'll just have to keep investing time and attentions.
If you feel inspired now and want to completely rebuild your life starting tomorrow, you may not have fully understood my statement. It's fine if you want to change something after reading this post, but as I said, don't rush it.
If you use up all your motivation within a few days, you'll feel empty/down again, so you'll start craving for dopamine and go back to your bad habits.
If you want to change something, change just one little thing tomorrow. The day after tomorrow, change another little thing. Take a small step into the right direction every day. Nothing more, nothing less. The last 8 months I have been living at my parents house, having no job, not studying, not even doing much of the household. I really want to have a life where I do productive things, but looking back at the last 8 months and after having tried so much, including therapy and medications, tells me I'm probably just a lazy person.
I have had depression and multiple burn-outs for 5 years, and its obvious that they make me unproductive HOWEVER having those issues doesn't exclude the possibility of being a lazy person. Maybe, besides being depressed and burnt out, I am also just a lazy person. If this is the case I can probably never be productive.
I see laziness as a characteristic. That just like your favorite color, can't be changed. If I wanted to change my favorite color from green to yellow, then no amount of therapy would be able to help me with that. I think there are some things we can not change about ourselves.
I have a few questions
If someone is just a lazy person, will they be unproductive the rest of their life?
Am I just a lazy person, considering the first sentence in this post?
Ihave tried years of therapy, advices from people, medication... everything. And nothing has ever helped me to be more productive. What I need is more motivation and energy. There seems to be no way to get it. I guess I am just lazy and the answer to this question will probably not help me, as it never did but.. what should I do? Should I just accept the fact I'm a lazy person, so I will never be very productive, or is there something else I can do? I (17M) am really lazy and due to that, I am struggling in school. It hasn't always been like that. I once was a model student and top of my class in most subjects, but the past 4 years have been hell for me. I am currently in the 11th grade getting my high school degree, but I feel like I am going to drop out. Whenever I start studying, I get easily distracted or feel a strong urge to not do it. I mean I have felt like that for a long time, but I always finished my homework at the last minute, so it hasn't been an issue until recently. The thing that has helped me the most has been offering to send my homework to my classmates, so I could feel encouraged to actually do it. Now even that doesn't help me. I just feel burnt out and can't force myself to do anything. I just feel like I am letting everyone down, but I don't have the strength to force myself to do it anymore. I have begun having panic attacks over it. As of now, I am on the line of dropping out. I have told my parents all about it, and they have told me just to finish my things as soon as possible and to just stop being lazy. I have tried to explain to them that I just can't. It feels as though my body won't listen to me. I'm lazy. How do you stay motivated to work out?
Ok, I admit it. I'm lazy. I'm middle aged and way out of shape. I want to get back in shape and I'll work out once or twice but never stay with it more than a week. I have the time, I just don't have the drive.
How do you get motivated and stay motivated to exercise on a regular basis?
