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How are you trying your best to keep everyone around you happy?

How do you manage to stay happy when others around you are sad and depressed? I'm in my early 20s and I've been working hard on focusing on myself and being in control of my emotions. I'm doing way better than I was a couple of years ago. Honestly, I skip all the sad songs or the sad memes because it just doesn't seem right. I know things like that play a huge role in our "mental diet". But it seems like everyone around me is really sad and depressed all the time. From my mom to the classmate who I don't even talk to lmao Does anyone else try too hard to make everyone happy?
I constantly feel responsible for everyone's mood. I feel like it is my job to make sure everyone around me is having a good time. If people with me aren't having a good time I feel like it's my fault, like I am boring and there must be something wrong with me. I try to be funny all the time. I seek validation through making others laugh. I have abandonment issues and I feel like if I can just keep everyone happy then they won't leave me. I am also terrified of conflict and I rarely show negative emotion because I am afraid people won't like me if I do. I am constantly trying to manage everyone's emotions. Does anyone else have this problem? It’s really important to try and be mindful of who you spend your time with. Being around people who don’t get you or do nothing for your self confidence, are only going to make you feel more lonely and potentially feel more clingy towards them, for that reason!
If you keep people around to feel less lonely, it’s not the right reason to keep them around and can sometimes lead you into a difficult downwards spiral
Not everyone is gifted with high self esteem, so being sure you have those around you as people who leave you feeling as good as you should is so integral to your self confidence. Being around the wrong people will make you feel out of place and lonely, and feeling like no one understands you can be the worst feeling. Does anyone else get the feeling that everyone around you is living a fuller, happier, more complex life full of promise?
Everyone around me seems to be doing better; like they’re happier, like they know something I don’t, or they’ve figured it out. I know everyone has their own problems, but everyone else overcomes theirs. I feel stuck; even when I make progress I feel slow, like I’m behind everyone. I'm in my mid/late-20's and I make mistakes a lot. My mental health isn't great, my partner and I are fighting a lot due to me, I'm still living at home due to a mixture of health and financial setbacks, and my career isn't where I'd like. And I'm always saying or doing the wrong thing it feels like.
And then I look around and, at least on the outside, everyone seems to be doing better than me. My best friends are on track to be the CEO and COO of the major company they work for. Another friend has enough resources to go back to school full time and still support themself. Everyone seems to be a lot happier, or at least they don't complain about being unhappy nearly as much as I do. Does anyone else feel like they are the only ones in their lives who doesn't have it together?
Handfull1 · 61-69, F
100% and at my age I should be doing better!

 
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