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How can you stop loving someone? How can you stop missing them?

Someone says, "Just stop! You're acting like a fool!"
Oh yeah?

Have you ever fallen in love? Madly? Deeply? Truly, in love?
How can you just stop it?
The heart doesn't have an on/off switch.
Once you're in love, that's it! You're done! You can't back away from it! No matter how hard you try!
Your heart will drive itself. It will pull you back towards them, no matter how hard to try to steer clear. Sometimes it will push you on them, "Tell her! Tell her how you feel! Come on! Just do it! She needs to know! Say it! SAY IT NOW!"

How can you stop your heart from aching for them? How can you stop needing them? Wanting them? Desiring them? Wishing they were yours?
How can you stop?
The heart does it's thing, and the mind follows.
The brain? Logic and common sense have no place in love.
Your brain will try. "Okay, from now on, I am in control! I am in charge! No more thinking about her! No more crying for her!"
And then bam! The heart rears it's big giant head - "Did someone say in charge?! I AM IN CHARGE AND I MISS HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! I LOVE HER! I LOVE HER! I LOVE HER!"
And the brain tries to calm it down - "Stop it! Hey! Get hold of yourself! You're looking like a complete fvcking id!ot right now!"
But the heart does not give a fvck - "I DON'T CARE! I DON'T CARE! I LOVE HER! I LOVE HER! I LOVE HER! I LOVE HER! I LOVE HER AND I WANT HER! I WANT HER RIGHT NOW! RIGHT FREAKING NOOOOOOOOOOWWW!"

And the heart just aches and cries for her and the brain - the brain has lost the case. The brain can't do anything.

The mind is thinking all about her; remembering her beautiful face, remembering her eyes, her nose, her lips, her ears, her hands...
The mind is the heart's assistant. You'd think the mind was the brain's assistant - nope! As soon as the heart steps in, the mind races to serve the heart. The brain - nobody gives a fvck about the brain. Nobody cares about intelligence, nobody cares about logic, nobody cares about common sense, nobody cares about right or wrong. The heart feels, the mind follows, the brain is slammed to the side.

And you know, you realize, you understand that you sound like an emotional drama-queen wreck. But there's nothing you can do. Heart's in control. Heart's in charge. And if the heart wants it, you will make a fool of yourself a billion times, and live through the embarrassment like it's nothing.

The heart just aches and aches and aches. The heart wants what it wants.
Nothing you can do but cry.
All you can do is cry, bury your face in your pillow and scream and cry, or sometimes, just let the tears slide down your cheeks, and fall on your laps.

Love. Have you ever loved someone so intensely, that you couldn't stop yourself no matter how hard you tried? You couldn't hold yourself back. You just wished and wished and wished that they'd love you back and be yours. Be yours forever. Wishful thinking.
But a wish is a wish. And the heart doesn't care how fat-fetched a wish is from reality. The heart doesn't care how impossible it sounds, or how ridiculous it sounds. The heart wants what it wants. And it will get it. Or die trying.
And you, the person in who's chest that heart resides - well, you're fvcked, ain't ya? Absolutely, totally scr3wed. You just have to live through the storm, and hope it doesn't k!ll you, or wreck havoc and cause damage.

Love. Love is a dangerous word.
Love, feelings, emotions...

Does any of this make sense?
Do you understand the words that are coming straight from my heart?
No?
Wait till you fall in love
Bexsy Best Comment
Im sorry you're going through that. And sorry for that click bait lol

All I can say is..just accept how you feel. Memories stay with us

I still have Memories of an ex from when I was 18. People stay with us. Just the way it is

wonkywinky · 51-55, M
yes indeed.that one person you may meet in life who you just love,yet maybe for whatever reason doesnt feel the same,and you split up.
to them,maybe youre like a once in a while remembered nice thought,but to you,they are a constant through your life,someone who every girl you meet has to match up to,and its not their fault that they dont,so you split with them.then maybe they feel like you.
i often wonder if anyone in life ever really finds that one love that is truly mutual?
or do many people just settle for fear of being lonely,yet without that pining,all destroying love?
The harder you try the more you’ll be unable to. You need to accept their footprint will always be there
pianoplayingsteve · 31-35, M
@BeefySenpie well put :/
Love is a risk. There will always be pain. But ultimately, you decide if it's worth it.
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
Wow, yes I know this feeling, hurts so much. 🤗
Aidan · 26-30, F
I need help to start loving someone. Everyone just seems either mundane and uncomfortable to look at.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
@Aidan Be careful what you wish for.
Aidan · 26-30, F
Well considering how lonely I’ve become I think I’m okay with some potential love drama. @rrraksamam
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
@Aidan Well I hope you find someone to love who'll fulfill that wish
wonkywinky · 51-55, M
perhaps theres comfort in the saying its better to have loved and lost etc..
DoubleRings · 51-55, F
After 10 years I still don’t know.
As you, yourself mentioned: User, just be Careful what YOU wish for.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
@Lyfis2live Walk away right now. I've seen your sarcastic cold-hearted comments on other people's posts. If you think you'll stomp on me while I'm feeling emotional, you'll have another thing coming long before you know it
pianoplayingsteve · 31-35, M
I wish I knew. I’m still in pain after my girlfriend left me a year ago. I want to be dead. Our relationship was a very happy one and she alluded to me being the one. But then she left me over a mistake I made eleven years before we knew each other existed. So it’s a real heart break.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M

 
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