what would you say to someone you found crying over their pet dying or an abusive parent

I would express how sorry I was that they were going through this terrible experience and that if I could be of any help in any way to please not hesitate to contact me.

I would love to be able to give your Mother a piece of mind it. It would not be pretty! As how she acted towards you was not Mothering. It just goes to show me how unfit she is! But seek help-a lot is out there. Many will be able to assist you. You may want to ask another family member- that you trust- to get HER help. Mother or not- stay your distance. Just take solace in the knowing that one day you will meed one who be able to take all that hurt and put it behind you . As they will love you , unconditionally -and it ways you cannot yet comprehend.

You may be a changed person because of this- but you may also be a stronger , and wiser person for having this happen to you. Learn from it- and vow to never be as she.

(same can be said for Fathers)

I am sorry for your loss and let them grieve whatever way they need to. It's not anyones place to tell someone else how they should feel or act when death happens.

I'd always been compassionate as I've had people be dicks and say I'm wrong. When my mum died and I went into care I had a carer tell me I could only cry on designated days.

So I believe that no matter how small the pet or how small the abuse I'd always be a shoulder to cry on.

pets can be replaced(gone through several) abusive parent?, I'd probably tell them it might be time to leave

I know how NOT to respond... My 19 yr bird died few months ago and a friend told me he "shot my bird in the cock"

Agreed with, as i have experienced both. Good responses