How do you react to being left on read?

In this case, we've been talking a good amount and then I said something that wasnt completely a dead end, and the person left me on read for about 2 weeks now.

I know they left me on read too bc they've been active elsewhere, so it's not really that they are too busy to respond...but am I being too sensitive here? The person messaged me back but I cba since I really really hate being left on read lmao😬 I also dont want to respond bc I don't like this whole popping in and out of my life kind of thing, but maybe I'm being dramatic 😅

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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

I’m very realistic when it comes to exchanging messages…a “They’ll get back to me when they get back to me” person and I feel the same after reading their message, especially given the fact most messages exchanged are just time-fillers consisting of small talk. More in-depth exchanges naturally have me wanting to be a bit more present, but when it’s made clear that they’re not as interested in responding as I am, I adjust my level of interest and my attention accordingly.

I don’t think you’re being dramatic. I think you’re taking the feedback another has given you and applying it properly. It’s totally okay to allow yourself to mirror their coldness if you feel a bit too discarded by their actions. If later on you feel like checking in with them, then don’t stand in your own way. But being tossed to the side like that is something we tend to remember if there’s a hint of pain encountered and it easily teaches us to be less invested in that person in the future.