Self pleasure. Anxiety can stop me from achieving one.

My vibe or something with fast and furious motion.

You can start from here...

Are you actually looking for a manual?

A lot of outercourse and what some people might call dirty talk. Focusing my mind on physical sensations and noises, being in the moment. Knowing my body and being able to tell him what I need.

What is also helpful that is often forgotten is that it doesn't start in the bedroom (or wherever you have sex). Foreplay throughout the day. I don't mean the physical kind of foreplay but getting the mind primed, which leads to her arousal. If she's thinking about it, she'll be ready. If you expect her to just turn it on without preparation then orgasm might take longer. Women need preheating, or at least I do.

Would you like me draw a map?

Some women orgasm easier than others through intercourse and others much quicker through stimulation or oral....and into the equation is how experienced the guy is....

my wife performing oral on me

If you ain't figured it out yet your kind of slow. Time to move out of mom's basement.

What do you mean how ?

Its called stimulation of erogenous zones. It sounds like you either have never been with a women or if have been with one you have failed to satisfy her.

Where are you from, if you do not mind me asking?

Lots of toys.. and a hot gf