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MaryJanine · 70-79, F
For the first twenty years of my life, no. My father was an alcoholic and mean and nasty. He started with a beer and whiskey chaser in the morning and by late afternoon, he was reeling drunk. The crisis came when he came to work hung over from the previous night. He was told if he came to work like that again, he was going to be fired. He had one bottle left in the fridge which we eventually poured out. He never touched liquor again.
Chasingthesun · 46-50, F
@MaryJanine my Dad is a recovery alcoholic for 42 yrs. He changed completely became a good man
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@MaryJanine Surprising that he was able to quit that easily & too bad no one ever laid down the law to him earlier in his life to get him to quit. Was he a much nicer person after he quit drinking?
MaryJanine · 70-79, F
@cherokeepatti It was like night and day. He became a good husband, wonderful father, and excellent grandfather. He had been drinking for years before my parents married (don't know how many) so it was a struggle when he was threatened with no job. I think that did it.
MaryJanine · 70-79, F
@Chasingthesun They manage to do it if they really want to do it.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@MaryJanine do you think he was thinking at his age it was so much harder to find a good job plus maybe he was thinking he could blow his chances at retirement? Seems like the longer you stick with a job the more invested you are.
PoetryNEmotion · F
@cherokeepatti Not these days. People are let go if they are veterans in jobs. Their employers save a lot of money. I was let go from a hospital job a few years back. I was told by the union rep that others with my seniority and my experience were just too expensive to keep around. The new grad nurses are cheap. One can hire two and sometimes three for my salary currently. It is horrible. That is life. All about money for employers.
MaryJanine · 70-79, F
@cherokeepatti I asked my mother once, "Did Dad drink before you married him?" Her reply was, "Sure. Like a FISH." "Well, why then did you marry him?" Her answer was, "So I could have you."
I didn't understand why she answered that, especially since my grandfather (her father) was an alcoholic,too.
I didn't understand why she answered that, especially since my grandfather (her father) was an alcoholic,too.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@PoetryNEmotion they were trying to run off the long-term employees in my dept. for several years before I retired, am sure it was so they wouldn’t have to pay retirement benefits package, the insurance was $800 a month. I know two in my dept. that left without getting their retirement packages, one just left for vacation & didn’t return, and the other quit before she was eligible. They made it extremely hard on us, the young employees sometimes didn’t last a week or a month & they’d quit, always having to train new hires & they left about 30% of the jobs not filled deliberately. Fat bonuses for managers & breakfast & lunch catered for their daily “meetings” which they would tell us they were working through lunch & breaks and expecting us to work too.