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That guy has been stalking and harassing me for months now and SW has done NOTHING about it. I'd block him if this only happened from time to time, but it has gotten so extreme that I can't post anything without him commenting only a few seconds (!) later. He's probably on my profile right now waiting for me to post so he can keep harassing me, so PLEASE, help get that stalker banned from this site. Thank you.

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TiffAching · 26-30, F

For anyone wondering why more people, especially women, don’t come forward about stalking, this thread is exactly why. Here we’ve got a stalker publicly admitting to stalking—reveling in it, even—[i]and there are still people blaming the victim and cheering the stalker on[/i].

“You’re no saint,” some of them say, because you have to be blameless and perfect in order to be stalked, I guess?

“Just ignore him,” say others, more interested in haranguing the victim of stalking than uttering a single word against the dude who just admitted to it.

“He cannot possibly be stalking you if you can just block him” others insist, overlooking how the block feature is a common tool on websites for people to deal with, inter alia, [i]stalking and harassment[/i].

“I wish [i]I[/i] had a stalker,” say yet more people, desperate to turn anything they can find into a personal attack on the complainer.

“This was a lost cause,” some people say, [i]not[/i] of any efforts to get the stalker to stop stalking or get the people charged with enforcing community rules to take any action to prevent it or protect their user base, but of [i]the person being stalked[/i] ... because they didn’t immediately do what these tsk-tsk-zing Church Ladies wanted.

And on and on and on.

And let’s remember, this is one dude stalking another dude in a way that does not appear to have a sexual component. Women getting stalked by dudes, and in particular women getting stalked by dudes who have made it clear they plan to fuck them [i]regardless of the women’s feelings or consent[/i], get all of this [i]squared[/i].

The number of times I’ve been told by teachers, professors, guidance counselors, police, my own parents, coworkers, and/or looky-loo strangers that I should be “thankful” some angry man who wants to rape me until I “turn back straight” has gone from terrifying to comical to terrifying again more times than I can count. Then there’s people telling me I led the angry dude on, or that I should have known or dressed “better,” or that this is just “normal” and I should “deal with it” (but only if that means smiling and ignoring it) ... And I’ve had it pretty easy compared to some women I know.

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

@TiffAching Stalking? I don't think you know what the word even means. What I do to the twit is in direct response to his trolling. He stops trolling and I stop talking about his rubber girlfriend. Seems simple.

TiffAching · 26-30, F

🙄

DukeOfEarle · M

@TiffAching But unlike the real world, this is the digital world where he HAS the option to block him and put an end to this. But he chooses NOT TO. So I have no sympathy for him at all,

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@DukeOfEarle When you find yourself siding with a stalker who brags about stalking, it’s time to re-evaluate your priorities.

DukeOfEarle · M

I am not siding with the stalker. I am tired however of people who bitch and whine and complain but do NOTHING for themselves. They try to make it everyone else’s problem. He refuses to block? Fine. I have no sympathy for him. @TiffAching

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@DukeOfEarle You do realize the person you’re lambasting for “not doing anything” and for whom you’ve repeatedly said you have no sympathy has repeatedly reported the stalking and made a whole thread to try and get the mods to take action, right? Whether you agree with OP’s actions or not, OP [i]has[/i] taken action.

DukeOfEarle · M

And I am openly calling “bullshit” on his alleged “complaint to the mods.” I’ve had to complain once for person’s posts that were absolutely disgusting. It was taken care of in mere days. “Emo” people are just part of the complain culture. Everything is everyone else’s fault. Oh pity me, pity me. How pathetic. Grow a spine. If mere WORDS are leaving you bruised you’re not going to last long in this world. Sorry, but that’s the hard truth. @TiffAching

SW-User

@TiffAching call the police

Sharon · F

@TiffAching Excellent and accurate analysis. 👍️

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@DukeOfEarle If you’ve had a satisfactory experience with the mods here, I’m glad for that. Everyone should feel like the mods are looking out for them and the community. Not everyone is going to have the same experiences you do, however, and given that the stalker in question here showed up within minutes to brag about it, I’m inclined to believe the OP.

Would I have also blocked the stalker, if this were happening? Absolutely! But that doesn’t change the fact that OP is being stalked by someone who admits to it and brags about it.

DukeOfEarle · M

And again he refuses to take any action for himself. So I feel nothing for him. @TiffAching

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@DukeOfEarle You’re still ignoring that he complained to the mods and made an entire thread, [i]which you are currently commenting in[/i]. Once again, regardless of whether you agree with OP’s actions, you cannot deny in good faith that OP has taken action.

DukeOfEarle · M

And you’re completely ignoring the fact that he refuses to do anything for himself. I just checked MY block list and guess what? I never see HippyJoe’s nonsense BECAUSE I BLOCKED HIM! Get it? I don’t even remember why I blocked him. But again, PROBLEM SOLVED. I didn’t need to complain and cry to the whole world about it. ONE CLICK. DONE. @TiffAching

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@DukeOfEarle He complained to the mods and he made the post you’re commenting on. You would not even be here to dunk on OP had he not made this very post. Literally the only reason you can even see OP’s post to lambast him for not taking action about it is [i]because he took action about it[/i].

OP could [i]also[/i] have blocked, yes. I would have blocked someone if they were stalking me, but I am not the OP here and I trust that OP knows the story and actors better than I do (which is borne out by the stalker showing up [i]minutes[/i] after this post first went up to gloat about stalking OP). That people here have the option to block people for stalking and harassing them is not in controversy.

But just because OP can block people who are stalking him, [i]does not excuse or justify the stalking[/i]. The stalkier has come here, repeatedly, and admitted to and bragged about stalking OP. OP is not the one who needs to get dragged here, because [i]OP isn’t doing the stalking, the stalker is[/i].

But people are still cheering for the stalker and blaming the victim.

DukeOfEarle · M

You know for a fact he complained to the Mods? You were there and watched him do that? And stop trying to twist my words. I have known women who have had REAL WORLD stalkers and my advice to them was simple: Call the cops. File a complaint. Gather evidence. Get a restraining order. Get a dog. Get firearms training if necessary. The final piece of advice was only needed by one girl and she thankfully never needed to use it. The above steps ENDED THE STALKING. Why? Because they took ACTION instead of just whining and complaining. The point I am making OVER and OVER again (and is obviously being ignored) is he needs to TAKE ACTION. Until he does so he is not getting an ounce of sympathy from me. @TiffAching

TiffAching · 26-30, F

@DukeOfEarle Given that OP accurately predicted his stalker’s behavior, I’m much more inclined to trust his account of things than someone who sympathizes with the stalker here. Neither of us has incontrovertible evidence here, but OP said his stalker would show up early [i]and then he did[/i], whereas you’re complaining that somebody trying to take action against a stalker isn’t taking action against a stalker, and you wouldn’t even be here to complain in the first place had he not taken that action, so ... 🤷‍♀️

Once again:

(1) The fact that you are here, commenting on OP’s post, proves that OP took action by making a post.

(2) The fact that people like you are screaming at the victim and sympathizing with an admitted stalker is [i]exactly[/i] why more people don’t come forward about being stalked.

(3) I guarantee that someone could do every single item in your list and you would [i]still[/i] blame them for not doing enough about a stalker if they complained. Guaranteed. Been there, seen that.

(4) I have repeatedly said that OP could have [i]also[/i] blocked the stalker, and even that I would have too if it were me being stalked, but that does not negate that, contrary to your claims that OP has done nothing to address the situation, [i]OP has done multiple things to address the situation[/i]. You seem dead-set on ignoring that, though, for some reason.

Go ahead and take the last word or blame the last victim before I block your ass.

DukeOfEarle · M

And AGAIN you’re ignoring the fact he could JUST BLOCK THE STALKER. If only it were that easy in the real world, life would be sweet. And feel free to block me. I have had enough of your whining nonsense. @TiffAching

AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F

@hippyjoe1955 [quote]He stops trolling and I stop talking about his rubber girlfriend. Seems simple.[/quote]

Why do you care [b]SO MUCH [/b] about what he does? Seriously, how sad is that? 😂