How soon before you contact a person after they give you there number?
So do you text immediately and say hey it’s me this is my number or do you wait a while and contact them and give them your number in return
41-45, F
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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
I never contact them.
I'll be like meh who cares.
I'll be like meh who cares.
ThoughtfulandSincere · 41-45, F
Well thanks that helps lol 😂 @Beatbox34
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@REMsleep I'm off the market. I don't date. I don't trust people lol.
Once bitten twice shy.
I've had my fill of pain and I ain't pursuing another narcissist anymore. The thing is I'm not gonna try a litmus test either. If they are I don't care and if they aren't, I still don't care.
Once bitten twice shy.
I've had my fill of pain and I ain't pursuing another narcissist anymore. The thing is I'm not gonna try a litmus test either. If they are I don't care and if they aren't, I still don't care.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@REMsleep I'm not trying to be rude but I think I can't try anymore.
The last relationship made me want to kill myself. It sent me down a path of depression. I still battle the thoughts to this day. I told my best friend who is a woman about what she did and she too accepted that what she did was extreme.
It changed me so much. I was once ready to give my heart, my energy and my devotion to the person who deserved it. Now I wonder whether if it's worth it when they're gonna leave and screw you watching you bleed to death.
The last relationship made me want to kill myself. It sent me down a path of depression. I still battle the thoughts to this day. I told my best friend who is a woman about what she did and she too accepted that what she did was extreme.
It changed me so much. I was once ready to give my heart, my energy and my devotion to the person who deserved it. Now I wonder whether if it's worth it when they're gonna leave and screw you watching you bleed to death.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@Beatbox34 If I may respond, I think that your approach to all of this is all wrong.
I had some pretty extremely bad horrible evil people in my life and it took me years to shape my philosophy which in my opinion (for me personally it did) eliminates the concerns that you describe.
Stop expecting or believing in fairy tales. Expect disappointment always. Do you ever dissapoint yourself? Has any other non romantic person in your life ever disappointed you? The answer is probably yes. So a significant other will dissapoint you too, even more because you are expecting more from them!
Don't fear pain. Pain is part of life and when you learn that it will come and you can deal with it you no longer fear to avoid it and it cannot control you.
You cut yourself off from too many good things(new wisdom, new love) by trying to avoid pain first and foremost. That's living in fear not fullness.
Get your own act together first. Be well. Be happy, live life, study yourself, be secure and find your purpose. No one should be able to break you down unless they have been in your life for 20 years and then they suddenly stab you but, if you are clear headed the odds of you seeing it coming are very high. The odds of you allowing someone in your life who would do such a thing become low as well.
Lastly enjoy people when you can. Don't hold back. It doesn't mean that you are in love because you spend time with them. Be honest with them and yourself but don't expect anything. Let them and life show you what it is and where its going. Just enjoy, enjoy , enjoy.
If it hurts, if its dishonest, if its manipulative remove yourself and logically access the situation.
Do not wallow in toxicity.
That's it.
Don't fear. Enjoy
It really works.
I had some pretty extremely bad horrible evil people in my life and it took me years to shape my philosophy which in my opinion (for me personally it did) eliminates the concerns that you describe.
Stop expecting or believing in fairy tales. Expect disappointment always. Do you ever dissapoint yourself? Has any other non romantic person in your life ever disappointed you? The answer is probably yes. So a significant other will dissapoint you too, even more because you are expecting more from them!
Don't fear pain. Pain is part of life and when you learn that it will come and you can deal with it you no longer fear to avoid it and it cannot control you.
You cut yourself off from too many good things(new wisdom, new love) by trying to avoid pain first and foremost. That's living in fear not fullness.
Get your own act together first. Be well. Be happy, live life, study yourself, be secure and find your purpose. No one should be able to break you down unless they have been in your life for 20 years and then they suddenly stab you but, if you are clear headed the odds of you seeing it coming are very high. The odds of you allowing someone in your life who would do such a thing become low as well.
Lastly enjoy people when you can. Don't hold back. It doesn't mean that you are in love because you spend time with them. Be honest with them and yourself but don't expect anything. Let them and life show you what it is and where its going. Just enjoy, enjoy , enjoy.
If it hurts, if its dishonest, if its manipulative remove yourself and logically access the situation.
Do not wallow in toxicity.
That's it.
Don't fear. Enjoy
It really works.