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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
When I was 5 years old, my mother went into the hospital for an operation. She said it would take 5 days. Instead, she came home 5 WEEKS later. My aunt, who was taking care of me, called the hospital daily; they said she'd been transferred to another facility but they refused to tell my aunt where she was. My aunt, a normally calm sensible woman, yelled at them demanding they tell us where my mother was. But we never did find out.
When she finally came home, there was no warning. One day a black car drove up to our house and she got out along with 3 women who were strangers to us. They walked up to our door and walked into the house using my mother's key.
And...my mother was not the same woman. It's as if they'd just put another woman into her body. There was a major personality shift. She didn't greet me, hug me, or show any interest in me when she arrived. I tried to hug her but she pushed me away. And she had been a very loving affectionate mother. After 5 weeks away, she was a whole different person. And she never returned to her former personality. I had been an adored daughter. But now she had only anger and contempt for me. She had, somehow, while in this mysterious hospital/facility, lost her love for me. It didn't seem possible but that's what had happened. Can a hospital surgically remove love and affection from a person? I don't think so, but that's what it looked like and felt like to me back then.
I still don't know what happened to her. I have a few totally paranoid theories about it. But, I really don't know. She changed and never changed back. The mother I'd known was gone and never came back.
When she finally came home, there was no warning. One day a black car drove up to our house and she got out along with 3 women who were strangers to us. They walked up to our door and walked into the house using my mother's key.
And...my mother was not the same woman. It's as if they'd just put another woman into her body. There was a major personality shift. She didn't greet me, hug me, or show any interest in me when she arrived. I tried to hug her but she pushed me away. And she had been a very loving affectionate mother. After 5 weeks away, she was a whole different person. And she never returned to her former personality. I had been an adored daughter. But now she had only anger and contempt for me. She had, somehow, while in this mysterious hospital/facility, lost her love for me. It didn't seem possible but that's what had happened. Can a hospital surgically remove love and affection from a person? I don't think so, but that's what it looked like and felt like to me back then.
I still don't know what happened to her. I have a few totally paranoid theories about it. But, I really don't know. She changed and never changed back. The mother I'd known was gone and never came back.