Why do some people feel threatened by their own spouse's financial success

@SW-User That's one hell of an assumption. The OP didn't mention an offending sex.

Women are JUST as capable of feeling threatened and jealous of success as men are.

And that's not even taking into account same sex partnerships, in which jealousy can also exist. Is that only men too? 🤷‍♂️

@Quizzical Ok, but deadass have you ever met a lady that was jealous of her husband making hella money? Because I haven't.

It's a freaking dude thing like 99% of the time. Too many of y'all have been socialized to have the desire to be some "alpha male", and then feel threatened when shit doesn't turn out that way. Having a successful partner should be something to be proud of, it shouldn't be a source of insecurity. Yet for a lot of men, it is. The machismo is just engrained in them and it's freakin toxic as hell.

@Quizzical youre right but no one wants to hear that. many women hold misandrist beliefs

@SW-User I am curious...are you a lesbian?

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@OwnerOfMany Nope. I'm dating a man who doesn't feel threatened by the prospect of me eventually making more money than him after I graduate from medical school, lol.

@SW-User Thanks for the answer. Is he a dumb ass man?

@SW-User alot of guys have insecurity for sure when it comes to their partners being successful, but alot of what you said ignored what quiziccal said too. women are just as capable of being threatened by other people's success in one format or another (although generally in a relationship context, women are happy for their partner to succeed), but to say that men are stupid as a whole is what i agree is a problem, because of how prevalent it is for women to think like that

@OwnerOfMany who? The one arguing with all women here? Or what? Lol

@OwnerOfMany Nope. That's why I said that people who feel threatened by their partner's success are dumb ass men.

@SW-User Agreed. Thanks again.

@Zaxel Honestly, I feel like y'all don't know how to read.

Question: Why do some people feel threatened by their own spouse's financial success in cases where both are financially stable?

Answer: Because they're dumb ass men.



I didn't say "all men are dumbasses". But honestly, this entire convo is just kinda proving my point. Some of y'all feel threatened by every damn thing.


Sure. Women can feel insecure about the amount of money they make, but let's be real, that isn't exactly something that society has taught them to be ashamed of. Society has taught men to be the head of the family, breadwinners, and to "be a man". Not making the most money in the relationship threatens that desire to provide.

If you're in your freaking 40s and haven't gotten over it, you need to go to therapy and deal with your issues. Having your partner be successful should never be something that bothers you. It's a lie to say that the entire issue isn't primarily a male problem. Personally, I've never met someone with this type of insecurity that wasn't a man. And while it's understandable to feel like that, it's something a grown person needs to sort out and deal with.

@SW-User its true, what he said was taken out of context, but it doesnt change what im pretty sure is misandrist views on your part. i just see my role as to explain the positions here when i see theres miscommunication, not force people to own up to anything
i agree though, theres many men with issues on self security that need to work on it

@Zaxel It isn't a "misandrist view" to acknowledge that this is pretty much usually a male problem. It's a product of western society, not me taking a hit at men as a whole. I think most people can see who is affected most by these weird financial insecurities (obviously people that are expected by society to do well financially = men)

@SW-User sure i agree for the most part