How do you deal with lingering anxiety?

@SW-User No - I know so.
Fear is based on something that stresses you out, usually the unknown factor of it.

Anxiety is the fear of feeling that fear.
This is why anxiety - if not dealt with - grows.

@OogieBoogie I guess I fear many things because I haven't been doing too well

@SolGryn ah... When ones sense of self diminishes, the small thing can seem so big.

I get that - there are tome I struggle with things that I know on tje past I've been able to do, yet they seem this big hurdle to try to climb over.

Sometimes it's a matter of picking one thing - just one.... Break ot down.... And try to achieve one aspect of it.

Then build on it.

@OogieBoogie that is a really good point. I do have some goals that are finally in reach. Maybe I should try to just focus on those and see if it helps

@SolGryn well make sure you don't try and do them all, ypu end up in a mess of doing bitsbof this and that and achieving nothing - tjen you slump back down.

Really get it down to ONE THING.
Then break it down.

And don't be upset if their really small steps.

Like - gotta go to the shop for groceries.

One - get cleaned up and presentable.
That may be all you do - but it's something.

Next do tjat and get in the car amd start it - drive around the block, and back.

Just build at your own pace.
One step more each time.

If yoy have trouble. Confide in a friend, and maybe 5hey can help you break it down.

Also - telling some one helps.
They can be there to help you do it.
With messages to remind you.
Amd also there's someone to share in tour success when yoy do achieve a step.

@OogieBoogie thank you for being so helpful. It makes me smile that you care so much...I will try to do small steps. But I need to find some friends to talk to haha. I kind of have trouble with that

@SolGryn well if yoy have trouble - contact me.

I've been there.

Amd in some ways still am - I'm.moving on to things I should have done years ago.

They scare me, make me feel sick ar tje thought of doing tjem - so I know wjats it's like.

I dont like harping on about fear - but I'd you need help -im here... Ok?

@SW-User well that's because there Is healthy stress and unhealthy stress.

I'm only talkimg about the unhealthy kind.

We need stress to survive, to make us 'do' as you say.


You wanna help him or do you wanna argue the fine points here and get trivial.?


Care to take over and help him move foreward?

Be my guest.

Go for it.

@SW-User yeah, because those that have gone through it knkws nothing - and book learned professional know everything.

Seriously?

I know I'm horribly blunt - but I speak from trial amd error.
From fucking up, failing and succeeding.

And helping people isn't avout beibg perfect - it's about understanding, helping them see the possibilities one sliver of light at a time.

Im. Sorry that I came down on your ass so hard..
but minor technicalities are not what it's about.

It's putting it simply, it's making it look less hard.
It's avout giving them possibilities that are within reach.

I've been to professionals... And each one is different.
Ive been given three different diagnosis'es with in one month.

No body I'd perfect - whether they are professional or not.

Tje art is in reading the person - and tailoring the solution to fit the need.

I'm sorry I come across as a bitch.
I know i am.

But I'm a hard truth person - I never sugar coat.

And I have a world of experience of failures amd wins.

All I Can do is share from them.

And yeah - My texting is really atrocious - o know 🙄

@OogieBoogie thank you. I'd love to just talk if you would ever like to