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I need help! & serious advice !

I need help so this is what I’m facing. I’m going through a phase of my mom staying with me !!! It’s kind of not working out. I’m homeschooling my kids and now she’s being a distraction I’m having to run her here run her there. & she’s throwing off my schedule of homeschooling. I just purchased a vehicle because my sister got rid of hers now she’s needing a ride from me. Everyday to go babysit my sisters kids and I feel they should come get her each day. My truck head gasket might blow out any day and she’s still asking for rides. I don’t have a mean streak in my body I hate telling people no and then when I say no people act like it’s being mean but in reality I try not to be mean but if my car break down no one is going to help me fix it. What should I say in a nice way like hey my guy is coming to fix my car and I don’t think I should drive it so it don’t break down. But she might take it the wrong way and start not to like him because she’s always thinking negative I’m not going to like her reaction but I’m not going to be able to drive it unless it’s a emergency.... and her runs aren’t a emergency and she’s throwing off my sleep schedule. I’m having to wake my kids up 4:00 each morning. Drop her off come back and then whatever we decide to do and it’s becoming a everyday thing ... Monday through Friday then I take her to work on the weekends and it’s 5:00 6:00 am each weekend it’s draining me and I barely have time to teach class for homeschool because my days are filled with her but I want this to stop it’s getting out of hand my sister boyfriend has a car. I’m getting frustrated with her washing clothes every weekend for just her uniform which is one shirt and a pair of pants and she don’t pay any bills here. What should I do ? I’m so tired and frustrated
plankter979 · 46-50, M
i think you just have to be firm and communicate. Everything you're asking for is reasonable. Don't drive the truck in this state and if she wants to do laundry every day she has to chip in with utilities.
MrsCurious · 26-30, F
Yeah I agree but she’s one of those parents that if you don’t do for her our spouse is putting us up to it and we don’t wanna do nothing for her and that we are stingy [@569869,plankter979]
plankter979 · 46-50, M
[@887187,Curiousity] just words though...she'll get over it...
Beatbox34 · 26-30, M
You need to start saying no. Denial is not a bad thing. It may hurt them at first but you need to be a bit selfish when it comes to your priorities.
WineandCoffee · 46-50, F
I Agree .... hope she’s listening [@476293,Beatbox34]
MrsCurious · 26-30, F
What about the Godly thing to do ? [@969349,Wineandcoffee]
WineandCoffee · 46-50, F
The roles are sort of reversed now. Your a mother yourself and best to have a nice chat than lose it !! Trust dad has moved in with me and I lost it the other day with him and he sulked for days. Cool and calm ...
MrsCurious · 26-30, F
Yeah I’ll have to remember that
plankter979 · 46-50, M
[@887187,Curiousity] thanks for friending me, can we pm?
MrsCurious · 26-30, F
Sure n.p [@569869,plankter979]
plankter979 · 46-50, M
[@887187,Curiousity] you have to answer me since i already pinged you twice lol
in10RjFox · M
Just take a print out of this post .. add "oh god!" On top .. and leave it on her bed ..
gregloa · 56-60, M
Did she do a good job of raising you?
MrsCurious · 26-30, F
I feel sometimes she does but she doesn’t help me like she does my sister [@240020,gregloa]
JovialPlutonian · 31-35, M
Stop analysing what you should or shouldn't do. You're not a bad person for saying no but not learning to will have ppl coming to you all the time as they see it as a given. What would serve you to do in this situation?
Lostandconfused · 26-30, F
Tie her up.

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