'Dating a chubby girl'

I have just read this article my girlfriend sent me yesterday. I have never been so annoyed by something! It started off ok but by the end it would be funny if it wasn't so offensive. Basically, 'instructions' for dating a chubby/fat girl like we are some different species or are all exactly the same.

"Since they know they cannot reach society’s standard of being sexy, they’ve often made it a point to focus more on their brains and their personality" 🤬

"Chubby girls know that their looks will probably not get your attention like curvy and petite women. However, they make it up with their charming and sociable nature that will click with you in no time"

"Guys who date slim women often have to fend off guys trying to steal them away. However, if you date a chubby girl, they don’t conform to some of the men’s standards. So, this is something you’ll rarely experience when dating a chubby girl." So, date a fat girl because no-one else wants to...

"They’re not afraid to gain some weight. You can have food trips with her because she’s open to trying out different type of delicacies."

"Chubby girls won’t reprimand you for playing too many video games. They are not shy of participating in your favorite pastime provided it won’t require them to exert any effort."

Seriously, who actually thinks like that? 😖

https://hackspirit.com/dating-a-chubby-girl-4-things-to-know-and-why-they-are-the-best/

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PirateMonkeyCabinet · 36-40, M

Yeah, sounds like a whole lot of dingdong, like someone who doesn't understand what they are actually talking about, and who thinks that everyone belongs to predefined group with a predefined set of traits and beliefs. Meh, it's the kind of article that isn't worth a nickel and not worth reading.

The most hilarious (in the "what the heck are you on about?" kinda way) has to be the "not afraid to gain some weight". Whenever I've been with anyone who could barely be considered chubby or up I've always heard about how frustrated they are about having gone up in weight. Every single time. Sure, there will be those who actually don't care, or those who thrive on gaining, but the whole generalized "chubby girls don't mind gaining" statement is... laughable because there is so much wrong with it.

Edit: Yeah, forgot one important "doesn't" which changed the meaning of a sentence. Proof-reading skills at maximum power.

Emele · 31-35, FVIP

@PirateMonkeyCabinet Yeah, I know it's trash but it annoys me that it is even out there and presented like actual factual 'advice', I just hope no-one reads it and takes it seriously.

People shouldn't be generalized against or seen in a certain way just for what they look like.

PirateMonkeyCabinet · 36-40, M

@Emele I figure that articles like these still serve a purpose... just not the one the author intended. This is the kind of article I'd be willing to send someone to say "this is what you sound like - don't be this person", and it is a great reminder to myself and others of just how important critical thinking is and the dangers of generalizing.

I'll be honest and say that I mostly just skimmed quickly through the article (the quotes you extracted told me enough really), but my immediate impression is that it wasn't even meant negatively. So I guess it is also a reminder to do a double take of what one writes; good intentions doesn't automatically equate to one not coming off as an asshole.