Can living with your parents make dating difficult? Whether it’s in person or online dating?

@LaniKoubert my parents basically give me plenty of privacy at this point now that I'm all grown up and older and mom essentially would cheer to catch me in the act if she walked in on me and partner because she wants grandkids and basically told me if I gave her them she'd raise the kid....
fortunately me an lys are on the same page about not wanting to give up our lifestyles to raise kids

@LaniKoubert my dad is an angry bitter old man... He has his days but it's a huge part of why I'mm going to stay with a friend. I love him but I do not want to live under his roof. my mom is amazing....

I would say she takes care of me but in old age more and more we take care of each other. it's mutual, she basically comes with me when I go to get food as I still need a passenger with a license on a fucking permit and I carry everything remotely heavy mow the lawn whack the edges etc..

@LaniKoubert edited reply btw.

@LaniKoubert there are a lot of things that hurt to think about in retrosepct now that I'm nearing the end of this journey to get my license like why I didn't all those years ago? I hate to come across like all it's good for is picking up chicks but you know in retrospect all the women who I knew who didn't have their own cars and would have welcomed me into their lives in order to get rides to work...?

fucking idiocy on my part really. It's just I grew up in an era where women were encouraged to be independent and lived with strong independent women whom As the baby of the family it was easy to delude myself into believing would always be reliable for my ass.

my ex got a ride in the car to concerts and such with our family...

nowadays all things considered it would have been a foot in the door to getting a date.

which makes me feel fucking stupid for having waited so long and then there's the fact that I like to eat out in public and NO ONE likes to GO out in his house hold and all the fights all the stress all the bullshit I basically put up with for twice as long as I really needed to..

none of it makes sense to me an I've always prided myself of being a self reflective person but ONE thing I did miss and failed to really realize how important it was learning to drive.

all those rage filled car drives, the crazy driving to get back at me, etc...

I love myself so much that I'm left asking myself why I put myself through all that...?

it's like I betrayed myself...

I was so blind for somebody who prides himself on being a self reflective person...

@LaniKoubert Portland could rival NYC in terms of how great our public transit system is.
everything except the sub....

@LaniKoubert I'm learning very quickly though I had a hand in my own oppression and though Society owns a huge degree of the blame for subjecting me to their bratty children at barrel of the gun as a child (public school kid...) to their bullying and then failed to protect me which s why when I got out I just DIED the way I did. I curled up in a ball and went all withdrawn...

But at a certain point one has to realize that they owe more to themselves after what they suffered...


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