Would u leave your spouse if they got someone pregnant ?
Or if you are a guy and they got pregnant by someone else, would you leave her. I think I would have to find my way out of that relationship as quickly as possible. What about you.
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SW-User
I think if you answer yes then you probably should of never get married in the first place 🤷♂️
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@SW-User I think that if someone is not capable of being exclusive and loyal, should never get married, not in the first, not in de second, not in the 21st place.
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CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@SW-User No, no sense IMO (but it´s personal, of course).
I that case, you would stay based in half a love (yours), half a commitment (yours), half a relationship (the half you are in, not the other one).
Couples are a boat for two: One by alone can´t sail it, three make it sink. A sunk boat is no more a boat, a boat that can´t sail is no more a boat.
She might be special for you. It may only work if you are as well special for her.
Wich, as a matter of fact, was no more true when the choice of cheating was done.
I that case, you would stay based in half a love (yours), half a commitment (yours), half a relationship (the half you are in, not the other one).
Couples are a boat for two: One by alone can´t sail it, three make it sink. A sunk boat is no more a boat, a boat that can´t sail is no more a boat.
She might be special for you. It may only work if you are as well special for her.
Wich, as a matter of fact, was no more true when the choice of cheating was done.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@SW-User "we all mess up and make mistakes dont we".
Yes, but if I collide a walking one with a truck, he might die, regardless of my best intentions and forgivness would not bring him back to life.
Individuals do mistakes. I might foregive the human being.
But the relationship is based in a mutual choice.
Once broken, it´s no more a couple.
"I only control my own actions and feelings".
Strongly dissagree.
If a serial killer gets inside my home, a treat to my beloved ones, if I break his neck, I´ll be "controlling" what he may do.
As you may see, I´m not a big fan of the solely individualist and "internalists" mainstream mantras a la mode.
Yes, but if I collide a walking one with a truck, he might die, regardless of my best intentions and forgivness would not bring him back to life.
Individuals do mistakes. I might foregive the human being.
But the relationship is based in a mutual choice.
Once broken, it´s no more a couple.
"I only control my own actions and feelings".
Strongly dissagree.
If a serial killer gets inside my home, a treat to my beloved ones, if I break his neck, I´ll be "controlling" what he may do.
As you may see, I´m not a big fan of the solely individualist and "internalists" mainstream mantras a la mode.
SW-User
@CharlieZ lol, guess im lucky that every truck i collided with didnt turn out so bad... In the past ive cheated, there was a time that it was my second nature. So i feel ive got the benefit of experience to see some of the motives and intentions behind it... I never once cheated because my intention was to hurt my partner at the time or because i cared any less 🤷♂️ it just happened, and when i went home to my partners it had zero impact on the way i felt about or treated them... I Just think my life lead me to be a bit more accepting of ppls faults as ive got so many too, and i wouldnt change it tbh. If i had a no nonsense stance i would have zero friends and interactions with zero intention to make any. But i guess also im rastafari and its taught me that only love and upliftment has any worth here. Maybe you or whoever would call me a mug or whatever, but like i said, i can only control my own actions and feelings and i choose them to be positive... Anything else would be just hurtin myself right 💙
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@SW-User I respect from the heart the experiences and believes of (almost) everyone. I´m no one to judge them.
But no one else should carry the burden of my choices, so I do not betray.
And, just for my use, I do not believe that the meaning is given by the intentions, but by the will, concious or not, shown in what we choose to do.
My friend, a bear hug! 🐻🤗
But no one else should carry the burden of my choices, so I do not betray.
And, just for my use, I do not believe that the meaning is given by the intentions, but by the will, concious or not, shown in what we choose to do.
My friend, a bear hug! 🐻🤗