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Sometimes all you have to go on is your gut feeling. Fine tune and listen to your intuition, even if you don't like what it's telling you. Pay attention to how you feel when they talk to you. If you find yourself looking forward to talking with them a little too much, and experiencing some withdrawal symptoms when they don't talk to you for a while, they [i]might[/i] be manipulating you. Or there's some need that they are filling that you need to take a look at.
Some other red flags: You have told them some very personal stuff, but you know very little about them. Sharing should be reciprocal. I show you mine, you show me yours. Also, if they're flirting with you, see if they're flirting with others, either in their comments, or by sending flirty gifts to others. If they send flirty gifts to you privately, they may very well be doing the same with others. If they're getting flirty gifts from others, while flirting with you, that's a big red flag. Also, you can tell if they have made gifts from others private by looking at the number of gifts that you can see vs the number of gifts they have. But most important, listen to your gut. It knows.
Some other red flags: You have told them some very personal stuff, but you know very little about them. Sharing should be reciprocal. I show you mine, you show me yours. Also, if they're flirting with you, see if they're flirting with others, either in their comments, or by sending flirty gifts to others. If they send flirty gifts to you privately, they may very well be doing the same with others. If they're getting flirty gifts from others, while flirting with you, that's a big red flag. Also, you can tell if they have made gifts from others private by looking at the number of gifts that you can see vs the number of gifts they have. But most important, listen to your gut. It knows.